Is it possible to permanently change a troublesome, upsetting memory by simply altering its design? Can you wipeout the effects of an angry or hurtful situation of the past by simply making different or revised those events that your memory plays and continuously replays in your mind?

Many of us have encountered events that caused us to feel guilty, shamed, wronged, abused or just inadequate in some way. Those distressing times may be from as long ago as early childhood when we were made to feel we were bad or stupid.

It is equally likely that the unhappy past memories could be just a few months or years ago when as adults we felt helpless, angry or hurt. Whatever the cause of the bruised or upset feelings, the continual mental review and replay of them will never bring anything positive to our lives.

As humans our unfortunate tendency when dealing with a miserable memory is to allow it to grow and become more powerful, feeding it until it is more miserable with each time we review it. Angry words become angrier. Hurts are more painful and deliberate. In other words black clouds of emotion are bigger and more ominous.

Here is my suggestion: regardless of the emotion, anger, fear, guilt or depression over events that you feel you cannot change, redesign those events now! Remember it is not happening now. It is the past. You can and must change any miserable defeating memory of the past in order to go forward creating a fulfilling life for yourself.

Realize that if the circumstance were happening today with your increased experience you would react in a much more proactive effective way than you did before. So begin now to work with that recurring memory to make it into a positive experience as much as you can. Use your imagination every time the memory haunts you to turn it to your advantage.

While you cannot wipe the memory out, you can adjust it. Realize that you are not asking the people involved to do anything at all. You are not wanting to actually change them or their attitudes. You are not taking any action with them directly. You simply are taking the burden off yourself by deciding to see yourself and those people, situations and actions differently as compared with the way they currently appear in your troubled memory.

The only thing you need do is recreate the event by changing it with your imagination into a welcome learning occasion, a chance to gain needed wisdom. Solely in your own mind adjust the troublesome circumstances and all those actions of yourself and the people involved.

If you miss-spoke, see yourself saying the right thing in the right way. If you allowed yourself to be berated or abused, imagine that you acted courageously, stood up for yourself and moved away from the persons involved. Make whatever changes to that memory that leave you feeling proud of yourself, your words, your actions.

This redesigning will not take effect immediately but if you persist in time the memory will make you smile instead of crying. When previously you may have been angry, you will begin seeing yourself peaceful and in control.

When we allow troublesome memories to intrude on our present and future we are crippling our lives. Decide today to heal your view of the past so that your future can stand straight and tall. Give yourself the gift of courage and confidence so at this time you gain energy to push forward with ease and much needed self-esteem.

In circumstances where things seem just too painful to be worked with on your own, I am able to help you with hypnosis. When you are in that calm and relaxed hypnotic state it is easier to gain the cooperation of your subconscious mind to allow the needed changes.

Using hypnosis I give you the memory changing ideas that you desire. With hypnosis the changes which are created have a greater long term effect. The result is much happier memory recall which in turn causes your present feelings and general mood to be more pleasant and definitely more uplifted and useful.

Allowing yourself the freedom of happier memories is a gift you deserve. Seeing your life path joyously carrying you forward, guided by your own light heart, will offer you an entirely new range of productive choices and options.

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Develop Your Personal Intuition!

Why concern yourself with working to find and use your intuition? Focusing on and acquainting yourself with your “sixth sense” can bring benefits every day in big issues and small. Intuition is a gift we all have and can decide to heighten through our intention and attention.

Most of us have experienced flashes of insight from time to time. Perhaps we simply knew who was calling when the phone rang. Maybe we received the impression that we needed to place a phone call to a friend or relative who needed some cheering. The emotion of their difficulty arrived within us without benefit of letter or phone call to us.

Those of us who have raised youngsters have many times known what was troubling them or needed “fixing” long before any words were exchanged. We just knew. Our intuition told us.

Relationships of any kind seem to bring out either the best or the worst in us but what better place to practice your intuitive skills? Saving frayed nerves and general emotional upset by understanding the problem from the other person’s point of view before speaking would be worth the extra time spent mentally investigating.

The interesting thing is the more attention you place on your correct insights, in essence congratulating yourself for paying attention and taking action, the more correct insights you will have!

Any time you have a concern about going ahead with a plan or course of action, business or personal, being able to discern the probable outcome or establish better alternatives through “extra sensory” discovery is a definite plus. It can keep you from unnecessary side tracks and detours.

The subjects you may choose to intuit are quite unlimited. For instance suppose you have been attempting to choose a new health care provider. You now have narrowed the field to two candidates. They both seem well qualified and come with trustworthy recommendations. What to do? Simply get quiet. Ask yourself who would be the best choice for me and my health issues? Many times your intuitive self can see some underlying qualities of the doctors that consciously you may have no knowledge of. Receiving more of the facts, your choice will be both easier and better.

As simple a thing as feeling that you ought to take a different route home rather than the usual freeway, can avoid needless traffic jams or accidents. As you begin to trust your extra sensory self, you will find life moves more smoothly.

I can remember many years ago in my early days as a real estate agent selling homes, I had an advantage whenever I would pay close attention to my feelings concerning a client. In other words, I would look at the list of their desires for a home and know intuitively whether what they were asking for was the kind of home they would purchase.

Upon sensing potential buyers unspoken desires, occasionally I would realize I needed to show them a different kind or location of house than what they requested in order to satisfy them. Also it helped me to realize who was a genuinely motivated buyer and who, in all probability, would look virtually forever and never buy. Need I say it saved me many wasted futile hours of driving here and there?

Where does our intuition come from? Where is its home base? Intuition is part of our subconscious gifts many times amplified or directed by our guides and teachers. Because that is true we can make the best, most accurate and concise use of it by becoming quiet and contemplative when faced with choices. Some people spend a few minutes a day by themselves in meditation. Others figuratively may simply step out of the bustle of the day removing themselves into the quiet of their own minds just to think. Whatever allows us to hear the still small voice inside of us will bring answers.

Fortunately “tuning in” can be done absolutely anywhere, anytime. As long as you can simply decide to “hear” your inner self for a minute or two, it can be done in the middle of the noisiest surroundings you can imagine. The next time you are at a ball game or standing by the bus stop, give it a try. See what you might be telling yourself that can be of use today or tomorrow!

Reverend Lois Cheney
www.Sarasota-Psychic-Medium.com
RevLois@gmail.com

Sleep Your Way to Success!

A strange idea isn’t it that you might actually sleep more and thereby design and create your success? Moreover it is true but only if you practice a particular aspect of sleep, your success can be manifested quickly and effectively. How? By become a “dream seeder”.

As a dream seeder or dream incubator, you simply need to take that one burning idea of yours and request information concerning it from your personal dream designer. Your subconscious is always listening to your requests and it doesn’t matter where you believe dreams originate.

If you wish you may credit the dream you request with the work of your subconscious, your high self, your inner teachers, your God or others, but regardless where the credit is placed, the dream seeding method works! The important thing is that you realize help is always available through the dreams you can request.

The more precisely you word your dream request, the more exacting will be the message of the dream. Your dream designer is always on the job and listening. If you are working to perfect an idea of your own, a particular thing-a-ma-bob, you could ask your dream maker, by way of your subconscious, something along the lines of “why does the wick always burn out?’ or perhaps “is it the electrical connection that is faulty?”

In the instance of relationship problems, the question might be “can I resolve the problem between Jenny and me by taking direct action, explaining my error to clear up the misunderstanding, or should I let the issue rest a bit?”

It must be a specific question in order to receive a specific answer. Speak the question aloud to yourself as you prepare to sleep. If your request lacks clarity, rephrase it till it feels right. Writing that question into your dream journal will add more energy and intention to the request.

It also helps to have your dream journal where it can be reached in the middle of the night so that any dream inspiration is not missed or ignored. I suggest to my students who are sharing a bed with a partner, they need to have a pen with a light. A lighted pen causes much less disruption and it takes away the possibility of stress if an overhead light doesn’t need to be turned on as a partner sleeps.

Remember if the dream comes to you but it is couched in mysterious inferences or metaphors, simply ask for a dream explanation! As long as you persist in asking, you will be successful in getting your answer.

The final step in the process of course is to test the accuracy of the new information by acting on it! As you become familiar with the dream seeding process, you may wonder how you ever managed without it. It is a kin to having a new highly knowledgeable friend.

When I have clients who are stressed I many times suggest that they concentrate on their breathing. Bringing in more air deeper into the body while paying attention to slowing the inflow and then being mindful of the subsequent release of air, almost without exception will bring anyone into a more peaceful meditative space.

Unnecessary, unproductive stress by itself can cause so much damage to the physical body as well as to the mind and emotions. Reducing that kind of stress without the use of prescriptions or over the counter medications is highly desirable.

What happens as we concentrate on slowing and giving attention to our breathing is the mind stops its incessant chatter. A person is physically relaxed by using breathing at a more expansive and slower rate. The added advantage is that using that kind of breathing causes the constant mind circling to stop while good ideas are given space to flow in as worries recede.

Using breath as a bridge to the ideas and positive healing input of the high self, god, or guides and teachers has been a method used over the centuries in many cultures. The beneficial results of breath work are tried and true, yet in our somewhat harried way of life it is often ignored or used only infrequently.

I remember years ago when Jose Silva of Silva Mind Control suggested that by using 15 minutes of meditation three times a day all matter of life situations could be changed or manifested with greater ease. That kind of deep meditation cannot happen without physical and mental relaxation. In turn my experience tells me the quickest most effective relaxation is inexorably linked to breath work.

Fortunately I have been offered an effective breathing method that I can confidently pass on to my clients. It is so simple that it might seem unimportant, yet it is both natural and quite logical. As babies you and I took our breaths into our abdomens, using our diaphragms. Sleeping in our cribs our little tummies ballooned up with every breath.

Now as adults many times we breathe in shallow rather ineffective ways. We breathe in a rather staccato shallow way barely using the full capacity available in our lungs. Upper chest breathing does not offer the health benefits that we need.

My suggestion is that each of us spend a few minutes a day, perhaps as little as five minutes, concentrating on drawing air deep into our bodies by way of using our diaphragms. Those five minute practices will stay in our memories for use in the times when we desire stress relief or access to meditation! With any luck it might become our preferred and healthier way of breathing.

If you feel the breathing technique might be of use to you I suggest you watch a short You Tube video on line posted January 21, 2013. It is entitled De-stress Anytime, Home/Job, Easy Breathing Tip.

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“Potential” Balloons or Blowing Away Stress

In my healing room I do psychic counseling, mediumship, chakra clearing, hypnosis and a number of other healing modalities. On my desk I keep a glass jar of “potential” balloons. Probably most of us are familiar with those little balloons that frequently decorate a child’s party.

Why do I call them “potential” balloons? Because no one has taken the time to blow air into them. Uninflated balloons cannot float on a passing breeze. They are flat and lifeless. I keep those balloon want-a-be’s to be able to offer help to some of my clients who come burdened with worry and fear.

You may have noticed that most fear-filled people are also engaging in very shallow breathing at least at the moment. Their shoulders tend to be drawn in over their chests, not allowing any expansion. Many times I offer some of those unhappy souls a balloon and suggest that the deep breathing involved with blowing up a balloon can bring in a moment of peaceful relief.

In those minutes when a person is concentrating on filling a balloon with air there is hardly any room left in the mind to think or worry with yesterday, today or tomorrow. After that exertion the following state of being “winded” can bring in the needed physical and emotional rest.

Likewise jogging, swimming or any exercise involving deep regular breathing can be a way to access clear thinking, effective ideas and an elevated mood.

Those of you familiar with meditation are aware that again one of the first steps leading to the spirit/soul awareness and inner connection is regular deep breathing.

To truly enjoy our lives we must have moments of peace and relaxation. To live in a continual state of stress and tension can only lead to unhappiness and a potential shortening of life.

To be productive as well as happy we need spaces in our concentrated efforts. Filling those spaces with full expansive breathing is one of the best antidotes to over intensity and anxiety.

Purifying, clarifying, energizing; breathing does all of that and more. I wish you happy breathing along with peace and grace for all your intentions and actions.

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It is an easy matter in our daily life to become focused on one task or desire so completely that the rest of our lives suffer. It is also possible to compartmentalize to the point where we are truly fragmented. A well rounded life must have many diverse but compatible components.

When we are experiencing physical pain, disease, mental confusion or depression the cause or trigger for the problem many times can be traced to a major lack of balance in our living. Whether it is a matter of all work and no play or no work and all play, or some other obsessive behavior, being out of balance just is not healthy.

For instance in wanting to be more spiritual or religious we may ignore our basic human needs for play, fun and socializing with family and friends. The truth is that our spirituality or religious practice should bring a high level of joy not a feeling of drudgery that walls us away from appreciating ourselves, our friends and all of life’s variety.

On the other hand if we are constantly seeking out more and more emotional highs through excessive behaviors of any kind, we are missing the option of hearing the direction of our own inner guide or high self. A meditative spiritually oriented practice may be completely missing. As a result we may neglect to utilize the talents and abilities which are the very reason we chose to incarnate here.

If we devote all our energy solely to the work of making money (as opposed to the joy of the work itself) it can ring all the happiness out of life as well as defeating our own efforts at financial success. There is so much more to living than the pursuit of money. Yes, having money is necessary in our world, however, when we say we are meant to live abundantly that covers much more than just money. It means abundance of all kinds!

An abundant and balanced life is filled with family, loving friends, spiritual insights, faith, walks in nature, healthful food and much more. An abundant life is one spent learning through a variety of experiences. Also it is particularly helpful to each of us to be aware of all our many existing blessings. We need to view each of those blessings with gratitude because in fact they are our abundance.

So it is reasonable to assume unless we regularly are willing to get sufficient rest or to recharge through physical exercise, meditation and fulfilling relationships even the consistent energy we pour into our work will not give us the feeling of security and balance we seek.

What can we do? I suggest that we begin by taking a serious inventory of how we are spending the 24 hours of both our worst and best days. Taking an honest look at what brings us a feeling of inner accomplishment, what sometimes deadens our joy, what improves or injures our physical health, how our relationships are progressing, all of these day to day assessments can suggest some needed changes.

While it is true that each one of us is a divine spirit having a physical experience, it is also a fact that individually we are in charge of keeping this body receptacle in an appropriate condition to learn from our earth life. In the best circumstance our mind, emotions and body would be performing as a well-oiled unit providing us with exceptional learning opportunities.

Remember that small changes can yield big results. It is not necessary to completely redo your life in order to make improvements. One bit of discarding or one bit of adding to your activities or mind set can bring a wealth of gain by way of balance in, and enjoyment of, your daily experience.

One of your most valuable guides to pleasant, balanced and successful living is that yardstick of your emotions. Keeping aware of your emotions, the strong reactions you feel when imagining a specific course of action or opportunity, understanding those definite yes and no signs or signals, can help you select the most effective way to manifest your highest and best desires. If your rational mind offers one path and your heart a different one, go with your heart! I have found that it is rarely wrong.

Your soul has embedded your life with wonderful desires. Those desires are designed not only to broaden your wisdom and experience but to help others. All of those soul-offered desires resonate through love. Your heart is the one place in you that always understands the frequency and energy of love and can translate that language very well. Allow it to be your guide.

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PSYCHIC HEALING FOR PETS/ANIMALS

As a clairvoyant, clairaudient and natural empathic, I am able to pinpoint any mental or physical concerns troubling your pet whether it is a cat, dog, reptile, bird or a more exotic animal. I am frequently called upon to “tune in” to other larger animals as well such as horses or cows. By tuning into their feelings and pains, I am able to channel healing energy to alleviate the problems. My ability also enables me to advise you what measures you might take as their owner and caregiver.

In many ways animals are just like us. They tend to resist uncomfortable changes in their surroundings. When they hurt physically they react. They also feel what you feel! So that when you are upset, they know it and respond in kind.

Surprisingly an animal will often tell me that a particular food is too difficult for them to digest. That food can be one that has worked perfectly well for some time and then, for whatever reason, seems to be unacceptable possibly creating a reaction close to allergy.

I spoke with a lady who had cleaned her pet gerbil’s cage of all its old toys. It reacted in what you and I would term to be a “nervous breakdown”. To resolve the problem she went to the garbage can, cleaned up the old toys, and put them back in its cage! That was the straight forward and simple solution. The gerbil’s owner was happy because the toys and cage were clean. The gerbil was happy because the familiar was restored.

In other words, all pets and all animals have feelings and desires. They definitely are more than “just animals”. The unconditional love they offer us deserves to be acknowledged by our attention to their needs. If we can honor their desires without going completely overboard, their peace is kept or restored and we as their keepers can relax. For example, I know one tiny dog who must have its particular light green fuzzy rug. That is its comfort. It always seems to say “home and safety” to him.

We love our animals. It is only reasonable that we would make any and all efforts to keep them happy, healthy and safe.

If your pets or other animals are experiencing any sort of physical difficulties or behavior problems just call or e-mail me. RevLois@gmail.com Cell: 928-300-2030.

Do you occasionally feel the space where you live or work has become somehow unsupportive or unfriendly? You might sense it is not the people who surround you or live with you or even those with whom you work but simply the space itself. Perhaps you find yourself feeling a little down or unhappy but lack any specific reason or cause.

What can be done? Where does any particular emotional darkness or clouded energy originate in a specific space? There can be many sources and many reasons for the apparent negativity.

Family or friends who frequent your home all have their own concerns and worries. A quarrel can leave traces of unhappiness after the disagreement is over. In addition a person who is suffering some physical aliment may have left the room or returned home but many times the pain and upset continue to be felt. Depending on the intensity of the feelings generated the energetic residue can linger far too long infecting your own mood or even causing mysterious but unfounded pain in your body.

If you operate a business enterprise from your home as many do, clients come and go with all sorts of problems, some issues related to you or your work and some not. The result of such traffic in and out of your home or office can bring a sizeable amount of dropped emotional thoughts and feelings in the energetic form of fear, disgust or worse.

When you occupy a home that had previous owners or tenants their particular problems and troubled thoughts can imbed their feelings in the fabric of the walls and carpet. If you have any degree of sensitivity you may feel that anguish. Yes the energy is invisible but it is nonetheless real. It can cause a drain on your thinking, a feeling of listlessness or confusion.

Even with a brand new home, recently completed, there can exist the anxiety of the build itself: unhappy workers who resented their boss, delayed product arrival, all manner of construction challenges including on-job injuries.

What can be done? Fortunately these problems with energy can be eliminated with a thorough space clearing followed with a positive reenergizing of the entire area. Taking out negativity is only the first step. Any time a problem energy is removed that space will fill with the “next available” if it is not followed with an intentional positive filling. That “next available” may not be what is desired. Note that any vacuum will fill! That is why it is so essential to have in mind and at hand the alternative which is to be used immediately after the clearing.

In truly troublesome energy situations it is best to employ a trained psychic who is familiar with such situations. Whomever you choose for the work should be familiar with sensing the origin or source of all the problems and be capable of identifying and utilizing the best method for removal and cure.

A learned healing channel will use forceful directed energy with a powerful assist from their guides and masters. In addition the clearing may require (and the healer will utilize) any or all of the following: sound, color, wind, essential oils, crystals and other stones, sea salt, candles, water as well as many other carefully selected remedies according to the specifics of the problem. Every energy imbalance will be unique but positive resolution is definitely available.

If you have felt that your personal space here in Florida is in need of an energetic change do not hesitate to call or e-mail me. You may have old unattractive and possibly unrelated energy crowding, inhibiting, the progress with your new efforts. Occasionally the difficulty can be traced to a confused “ghost” or spirit who needs some help in moving on. In the case of either spirit occupation or embedded thoughts and emotions I am available to bring the effective cure you need.

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Where do we put our words, our emotions, our thoughts? What place do they occupy? We used to believe they existed solely in our physical brain. The fact is that very event, every reaction, every happy, cheerful, angry, judgmental or blustery response of ours goes directly into each and every cell of the physical body. Yes, in fact each cell of your body knows the entire personal history of your individual lifetime on earth! That being the case shouldn’t we give our cells a thorough cleaning to remove the debris or negative input and leave only the positive constructive memories?

I recall receiving a massage from a lady some years ago. She was working on one of my arms when a picture complete with sound and color seemed to literally pop out of the cells in that arm and appear in my mind. It was an apparently unimportant event that happened when as a teenager I (with the company of my mother) was buying some little trinket in a St. Louis department store. I don’t recall whether it was earrings or a fancy pin, but something tiny.

The memory pointed out the fact that I had rehearsed one part of the event over and over. And this was that scenario: when the clerk finished ringing up the sale, she asked “do you want a beg?” She repeated her question at least twice and neither mother nor I could understand what she was saying. The problem was her local Missouri accent. She simply wanted to know if she should place the item in a sack (i.e. bag) or would we rather take the receipt and simply place the jewelry in one of our purses.

All of that seems awfully trivial but the truth is I had mentally made fun of her over and over again through the years. It was definitely time to change the whole judgment. What right did I have to see her as less of a person for something as small as her way of speaking and enunciating?

Looking at the bigger picture do you believe it is possible to instigate a kind of cleaning or negativity sweep-out for the health of our cells? Can we remove negativity from our bodies by a cellular cleaning? I believe that it is not only possible but advisable. I think we can create a change in our memories and feelings regarding our actions and reactions of the past. The time to start that work would be when a mental picture of an apparently undesirable past event or reaction such as the little incident I just described (or much worse) presents itself.

We all entertain unhappy memories from time to time. Occasionally we replay the plot and characters over and over again. Sometimes the memories are of situations where we feel we said or acted in the wrong way. Other times we blame someone else.

When you catch yourself in one of those replays, stop! Decide to look at the event and people in a different way. The first thing is to decide no matter how dark that memory seems, no one, including you, ever acts in any way other than what at that particular moment seems to be the only realistic way to act or react.

Even the most heinous act is initiated with the idea that somehow it will “fix” things. Having decided that, it becomes much easier for you to relax and begin the process of forgiving all involved. It does not wipe out the actions but it does allow them to seem more normal, more to be expected or perhaps just more logical from the viewpoint of someone’s past experiences or conditioning.

Forgiving anything softens the memory, relaxes the body! But from my point of view forgiveness as I understand it simply is not enough. Many times when we forgive ourselves or someone else we are simply saying “I won’t hold it against you from now on.” To me that is still holding on to “you were wrong! but I am the bigger person”. It is still harsh judgment just an ego action to prove how noble we are.
So what more can we do if forgiveness is not enough or if it seems just incomplete? First and foremost we need to stop clinging to the idea that anyone or anything must be either right or wrong. We can begin to bless.

We can acknowledge that perfect divine spark of Spirit that exists in every human being. We can understand that our ways of learning are all different, are all unique. Because that is true we can start sending our own inner love and light to those involved. We can love ourselves. We can love others. That is the blessing we can offer.

The more light we send from an open heart, the easier it becomes to clear the negative aspects of any event. Ultimately we will feel the change and the true release will come! All you have to do is keep on keeping on till you feel the sweep of total change. It is so worthwhile.

What benefit can be gained by cleaner cells? A physical body that is filled with happy loving thoughts, pictures and emotions is bound to be healthy! Conversely we know the darker the attitude, the more fear or unhappiness we entertain, the more likely we are to encourage disease in our selves. Our bones, joints, hearts and other organs can react to imbedded misery. Forgiveness, blessings, love, light and non-judgment offer much better alternatives.

Take notice that I am warning you: when you begin forgiving, blessing and releasing, more and more memories will come to the surface demanding their own love filled attention. That is a very good sign. You may congratulate yourself. You are on the right track!

Needless to say the best way to keep those cells of our body in a state of bliss would be to halt the judgments before we make them. We should be seeing everyone, including ourselves as “works in progress”. We should intend to always see through the eyes of love; however, until we become a little more perfect or adept at that attitude, we now have a way to clean and clear any troubling memories! Bless, bless, bless. Send Light. Send Love. Let us make that effort. It will pay.

Reverend Lois Cheney
www.Sarasota-Psychic-Medium
RevLois@gmail.com

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