LOSS/GRIEF

As we move through our lives there are many experiences that can leave us feeling helpless or lost. We might lose a job we had counted on. Even if it wasn’t our perfect occupation, chances are the income was important to us. We might experience the death of a pet whom we loved and who loved us so much. Worse yet, the passing of a loved one may leave us wondering where our future has gone.

No matter the kind of loss it is inevitably followed by a period of grieving. Grieving is appropriate. It rightfully gives us time to regroup and recover. That grieving can last for days or weeks or months but at some point, we need to gather the pieces of our lives together and redirect our focus.

To stay over-long in grief, while also creating a state of regret or fear in our minds, can lead to mental or physical illness. Depending on the sort of loss, the time for recovery varies. Unfortunately in the severe case of losing a spouse or child grieving any time in excess of 12 months only seems to create further problems.

We have an obligation to ourselves to be completely present, whole and productive day to day. The life of each of us matters. We are here on this earth plane to experience and live fully. If you find yourself unable to move on, to make new plans, after your personal loss, I am here to help you.

As a psychic medium I can answer many of your questions concerning the loss you have experienced. As a certified clinical hypnotist and metaphysical minister  I am ready to help you move forward. It is time to recover your life’s purpose and direction. Call for your personal private appointment. Reverend Lois Cheney (928)300-2030.

 

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HELLO ARKANSAS!

The last time I lived in Arkansas was 7 or 8 years ago. I had a lovely home in Bella Vista Arkansas. Now I have an equally beautiful home in Rogers Arkansas. I am thrilled to be living in an area that feels like home to me.

Also it is important to me to be near the Ozark Research Institute in Fayetteville for which I am a member and presenter. No more long plane rides just to arrive at the center!

After working at my Rogers home on the “special healing room” I am completely ready to welcome new clients. I took some extra time with furnishing and decorating just to be sure that anyone who comes for a consultation would feel as much happy warming energy as I could create.

Every large geographic move seems to require a new web address as well. Soon www.ArkansasPsychicHypnotist.com and www.ArkansasPsychicMedium.com will be up and running. Special thanks go to my daughter who handles all the technical “stuff”.

Today I invite new and former clients to call or e-mail to schedule their personal private sessions conducted in person or by telephone. My cell phone remains the same: 928-300-2030 and I still have RevLois@gmail.com.

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Yes, at last after all the home renovations I am able to open the bedroom closet and see my old familiar clothes “friends” with me here in Rogers Arkansas. Why is that important? It is mostly because Jake, Booboo and I moved our home base from the far west of Arizona to the heartland of northwest Arkansas.

Nothing seems to settle me down like having familiar things around me. In this case it was my shoes, dresses and sweaters. Opening the closet door and having my red jacket smiling back at me was pure delight. Of course after all the unpacking and reorganizing our little dog Booboo is especially happy to enjoy her usual bed, treats and toys.

When you consider it, most of us are operating on habitual expectations. We depend on the familiar. We have certain firmly held beliefs. We expect to know which cupboard, which drawer holds the knives and forks without a lot of searching. We hold a memory card for that specific location. Also depending on traffic lights as we travel, we know to stop the car without a lot of thought about what a red light means.

In general habit serves us very well indeed until we cease looking at some aspects of it. When we make decisions on life’s recurring issues by merely following what we always do in similar situations, we may cut off some more positive options.

The actions we take may be on seemingly small problems but unfortunately everything we do affects something or someone else. It pays to open up our thinking to allow that there is almost always more than one solution to any challenge.

I was teaching an intuitive development class for the college in Arizona when one of my students asked me to give her a method for forcing her coworker to agree with her own firmly held plan of action. She wanted to mentally force her coworker to see the “right” way. I suggested that just possibly there was more than one way of resolving the problem, more than one possible solution. I guess I was too forceful because my student didn’t return!

Habit many times serves us well. All I am suggesting is that sometimes we need to consider some of our more imbedded habits and automatic reactions. It is good to see if a certain familiar path has lost its usefulness. Occasionally we might catch ourselves using outdated solutions we used as children which no longer work in our adult world.

As a certified clinical hypnotist I am often asked to “reframe” ideas, those old knee jerk reactions and habits for a client. The subconscious mind will do anything for you given the right instructions. Hypnosis is a reliable way of imbedding those new instructions. With the deep meditative state accessed through hypnosis you always have the option of creating a new improved neural pathway for more positive results.

Call for more information on how I might help you achieve your goals. Rev. Lois Cheney 928-300-2030 or RevLois@gmail.com

 

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ROGERS, ARKANSAS! Yes, we are finally here in the Ozarks of Arkansas, Jake, Boo Boo and me. We are so happy with everything. Our new home will be ready for us in just a couple more weeks. In the meantime we are looking at all the clear lakes and beautiful rivers plus finding our way through so many stores. I have a long history with Arkansas and feel as if I have finally come home. Soon I will be visiting with the “Tuesday Night” healers group at the Ozark Research Center in Fayetteville. Yes, it has been years but I will make up for lost time. Looking forward to seeing all my friends again.

As always I am offering telephone or internet consultations for clients who are not able to come to the healing room of my Rogers home. I am frequently asked if psychic impressions are as good over the “wires”. Yes the intuitive and psychic work is equally accurate at a distance whether it is large or small. I welcome all such contact and can begin scheduling your private appointment in May.

Just call me at 928-300-2030 or e-mail RevLois@gmail.com

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Boo Boo is our little mixed breed dog. Yes, she is overweight at 14 pounds (our fault for over indulging her) but nevertheless a real love. I was talking to her this morning and petting her.

I wanted to tell her that in just a few short days the movers will come to load up many of our things for Arkansas. What we didn’t want to take of the furniture would go to charity. You see Boo Boo is very possessive of her things. It is her couch, her eating chair, her special pillow etc. I admit she is terribly spoiled. We treat her like our own little girl. Of course I wanted her to know that there would be a new couch for her to lounge on, even though things were changing, she would have everything she needed.

So while I am trying to explain all this to her, I suddenly realized that dogs have absolutely no concept of “future”. They live totally in the moment: “I have food, I have water or I don’t. Or I need to go out.” So how could I tell her that tomorrow she will have a big grass yard to bury her bones? How could I explain that the lower altitude in Rogers Arkansas would feel better on her hurt foot?

The very best I could do was to keep her close to me and warm. I would be careful not to let any of her special sleeping blankets or pillows get away. I would keep as much of the familiar things close at hand as I could and hope that would be enough. Her comfort is important to me and my partner Jacob.

With all of this I began to think how much better we people might be if we were able to enjoy each one of the “now” moments. If we could be aware of what wonderful things and people we have in our lives in this minute, wouldn’t we be happier? But no, instead of enjoying what we have, when we have it, we are always wandering off with our thoughts into future possibilities where life would be better.

You can be sure that I do as much future planning as anyone. To progress with relationships, work, or play, we need our visions. The immutable laws of attraction and positive energy projection are wonderfully powerful tools. At the same time, it seems more joyous overall to allow also moments through the day to remain conscious of each breath of the beautiful and flowing “now”.

It is for our own healthy living to remind ourselves that this moment in time is important. Every minute of every day is a gift and an opportunity. You are blessed with this earth experience. Live, love and feel with strength and intention.

 

Rev. Lois Cheney

www.PrescottPsychicMedium.com

RevLois@gmail.com

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IF A SINGLE MATCH….

If a single match can drive out the darkness in a room, how much more powerful is the “Light” of one illumined person?

Can you by shining your Light release the darkness of negativity or conflict in any situation that presents itself? Could each of as hopeful enlightened souls decide to step away from harsh judgments and instead offer our blessings?

Many times we speak of the desire for peace in our lives and our world. Is it not up to us then to be at peace? Let the words we speak and the thoughts we think be filled with love and gratitude.

Think for a moment about our personal close relationships. Think about our family, intimate friends. Do we allow those people to have ideas that are different from ours? Do we let them express their thoughts without voicing our criticism? Let us remember that there is always more than one way to successfully approach life’s varied challenges.

In addition to be more accepting of our friends and family, let us step away, look away, from the harshness of the news media. Decide to take a lengthy vacation from the bad news of papers and televised disasters. Realize the exaggeration of unhealthy events simply is amplified to draw attention for the purpose of selling a product!

Instead of unhappy reading and viewing, bring your imagination to what is good and desirable. Create with intention. Tap your own latent power with the help of your powerful high self, guides and angels. We are all needed and able to create a better, happier, more positively productive world.

 

Reverend Lois Cheney

RevLois@gmail.com

(928)300-2030

 

 

 

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If memories from your past are causing you pain today, perhaps it’s time to make some changes. Some of your memories may be tied to relatives or friends who have long since passed. Other memories might be connected to people who are unreachable at this time. It could be some personal action you took or some words you would like to retrieve. Whatever the memory, it can be changed.

I was fortunate in the early 70’s to study with Jose Silva. His course in Mind Control was really a training in self hypnosis. One of the topics in that course was Memory Relief. The object was to take any unhappy memory into the deep levels of your consciousness and begin to tweek it, to adjust it. One little change at a time was “re-remembered” until the inflicted soreness dissolved. This technique was not intended to change anyone else, just to change your personal memory of the event. It hurt no one and freed you from that yoke of pain.

The point of all that adjusting was to reaffirm the fact that the event itself could do no further harm, only the irritating memory was causing the current problem. Let’s take an example. Perhaps the memory that bothers you today is like one of mine from many years ago when I was a little child. I misunderstood something my mother said when she drove us to the old neighborhood. She had some business to tend and she told me it was o.k. to visit my nearby friend.

I believed I had to wait for her to come back to the car before I could see that little friend who was so special to me. I didn’t understand. She expected I would visit while she was busy with her task. When she returned to find me still sitting there, she said it was too late. We had to go back home. My five year old heart was nearly broken.

This may seem to be a small, unimportant memory, but no memory that still causes an ache in your heart is unimportant. In this instance, a memory of that kind can cause an ongoing fear of loss in much more important present day scenarios. Childhood memories can be quite crippling.

Now, as an adult, I can take that memory into my creative consciousness and begin to see the action differently. One bit at a time it can be changed. First, I tell myself that I understand what mother wants. I promise to be quick, to not keep her waiting. Then I hurry down the street to my friend’s door and enter for a visit. The two of us share a giggle and I look at her new toys. I feel it is time to go. I hurry back to the car just as mother comes down the street.

This same technique can be applied gradually to much more serious memories with good results. My late husband was a skilled hypnotist. He worked with one client at a time to help change and heal the varied problems of their lives. I was lucky enough to observe the changes in a number of his patients. Those people he treated would many times drop the depression that had darkened their lives for years. It didn’t matter whether their memories of the past were real or had been simply over embellished and strengthened through the years, they still would yield to positive change. Through a bit of occasional reinforcement the resulting change would become permanent.

The importance of working with and changing unhappy memories cannot be over stated. I never suggest wiping out a memory. Memory “removal” is likely to become suppression and cause even greater harm. The gentle, effective way, is just one positive change at a time. Something that is “just a memory” needs to be addressed because it can cause physical disability as well as emotional and mental stress.

Taking responsibility for our memories, changing them for the better in this way, means not needing to blame anyone or anything for our own recreating of similar events in our lives now. We can stop the cycle and the repetition. It means filling our days and nights with the new joy and peace we can think and imagine today, not reliving the consequences of what we felt or suffered in the past. We can take full responsibility and enjoy a happier more fulfilling life.

Will you give me the chance to help you with your life challenges? Call today for an appointment for your clinical hypnosis. I am Reverend Lois Cheney, telephone (928)300-2030, RevLois@gmail.com

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“NOTHING COMES FROM NOTHING…”

Yes, it is a line from the musical “The Sound of Music”. In my mind I can still hear Julie Andrews’s beautiful voice in the movie version. “Nothing comes from nothing. Nothing ever could. So somewhere in my youth or childhood, I must have done something good.”

Doesn’t that sound like what we call our “karmic returns”? In other words it is the deeds you perform, the emotions you send forward, the thoughts you continual rehearse, and your habitual ways of relating to life events that create your life experiences by way of the immutable and universal law of karma.

If you are not thrilled with the situations in your life today, fortunately creating positive change is remarkably simple. As a hypnotist I have helped many people make sweeping changes with the use of hypnotherapy. To create wonderful life affirming results all you need to do is change what you are focusing upon. Bring gratitude, joy, love and light into your thinking and emotions. It is easy to see what isn’t working but much more important and profitable to look for what is possible and beautiful.

I hear you say “but what if this negativity is just from some past life of mine? I can’t change that.” The good news is it makes no difference how an unwanted situation arrived or what drew it into your experience. What does matter is that you begin today to think, feel, speak and act differently, in a much more positive vein. You may well be surprised how quickly you can create beautiful changes to benefit all your days.

Among the many other ways of improving your personal karmic returns is to take a deliberate 2 week news fast: no TV, no radio, no internet. The so called news being spewed forth by the various media is deliberately focused on what is wrong with our world not what is right. Just stop listening to what is wrong. It is much better to believe that within any soul’s action or any groups’ action, no matter how seemingly horrible, there is still the possibility of great light and love present within each individual. All people, regardless of their current actions, are still endowed with a fantastic spirit which can be awakened.

If enough of the earth’s population began using heartfelt gratitude in addition to adopting an unwavering belief in love and light and continually sent those energies forth we could reach the wonderful tipping point of 51%. In other words that percentage of positive energy being poured forth would change the whole world. It could mean the end to senseless acts of violence!

The good news is that reaching the tipping point could begin with you and me using our positive thoughts, actions and emotions. Are you with me? Let’s start today!

Rev. Lois Cheney

RevLois@gmail.com

 

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WHAT BETTER TIME?

Yes, what better time than right now as the New Year approaches to clean your mental, emotional and physical house?

Your mental “cupboard” filled with your past experiences and ideas may have been presenting you with the same old beliefs and decisions over and over. As a hypnotist I know habits are powerful but they can be changed! What if you were to decide to make your own thoughts and desires concerning possibilities for the year 2016 much different? What positive results might present themselves if you were to look at life differently?

Perhaps this year is the year to believe in your own dynamically unlimited possibilities. You could make this coming year the time to assert your own latent abilities and self-esteem! Go ahead with faith and bring forward those things you always wanted to do or even wanted to try but were reluctant to attempt because of imagined possible failure. Make January 1, 2016 a springboard for new experiences. Make all of 2016 your best year yet!

Do you need to change your emotional responses also? We can be so accustomed to responding to certain events in a preprogramed emotional way that we simply fail to notice there could be another response. In other words we might feel that this or that other event is working against us when in fact we can use any situation by drawing on its energy to move forward!

Our automatic emotional responses can be changed. Instead of “oh no” when a seemingly significant “roadblock” appears we might feel or say “isn’t that interesting” and just keep moving ahead. In fact harsh or obviously unwarranted criticism from anyone can be allowed to bounce off you or even be used energetically to propel you forward to your personal desires or destination. Your emotional responses to life events matter!

Why would I mention cleaning your physical house as well? Our homes when they house unused or unusable items can contribute to cluttered thinking and negative reactions as well. For instance is there something that you own that is owning you? Are you required to dust it, move it around, move around it or otherwise care for it when you really don’t want or need it? In other words anything whether it is clothing or appliances or furniture that is no longer of use, needs to be donated, sold or tossed.

It is particularly heavy and potentially depressing to be “warehousing” the clothing of someone who used to live with you and is long gone elsewhere. Your home needs to be your home! Make your possessions serve you, not the other way around. You might be pleasantly surprised at how airy and light your home’s energy will feel when you discard any unnecessary items.

Clearing and cleaning your past mental storage, your emotional responses and your physical home can result in a whole new and more positive you. All three aspects of sanitizing can bring you to see all of your experiences with new eyes. You really can become more of the person you were born to be. Just tackle one aspect at a time. Be ready to be pleasantly surprised at how your life experience will change!

 

Rev. Lois Cheney

RevLois@gmail.com

 

 

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HOW NEW WILL YOUR NEW YEAR BE?

As we birth the New Year 2016, our thoughts return to the year now past. Perhaps we feel many things could have been better. We see loss in various human arenas…finance, institutions, relationships, and more.

We need to ask ourselves if we want a rehash of 2015 or if we are willing to make the effort to create situations and events in and around us that are truly new. To have a “new” year we must begin to think, act and feel differently about ourselves, our experiences and our abilities.

At this special time of new beginnings I offer these ideas: First, forget the so called “failures” of the twelve months past. Those losses and the actions that created them are over. Instead whip out a sheet of paper and pen. Begin to write everything you did that was a “win”.

Call your list MY SUCCESSES. Documenting your “wins” as a list will be the first step toward your new creation, your new journey. Whatever you did at any time that brought you a good feeling about yourself, your motives and your abilities, write it on your list! The act of writing anything gives it special enlivening energy.

The reason for this exercise is not to encourage living in the past but to allow you to remember and feel those special positive energy and power filled times. What name do you give the power behind those winning memories? Do you think of it as the energy of intuition, Spirit, God, I Am, High Self, Light or Love? Whatever name you give to it that power is still with you to use in any way you can think, dream or imagine.

By making the “My Successes” list you will begin to remember many previously forgotten successful decisions and adventures. Take that energy of success, use it to model your ideal new year.

Did you know that your powerful subconscious will always carry out your orders? Every repetitious thought and emotion you feed to it will be saved, worked with and brought to manifestation. It is a 24-hour-a-day worker. It never becomes tired and it never grows old. Be sure to feed it with your highest thoughts and feelings.

When you access your own “feel good” emotion you have accessed your personally powerful fuel and igniter fluid for constructive manifestation. Throw out any limiting ideas. You know what you desire. Now you have the way to ignite those desires!

It is no secret that most of us can tell you what didn’t work in our lives or what isn’t working. Why fritter away our dynamic energy resources on such a wasteful pastime?

Start cleaning your mental and emotional “house”. When a particular personal habit is a stumbling block, it not only has to be removed but it has to be replaced! It is good to remember that anytime you create a vacuum by removing an idea or emotion, you need to replace it. Otherwise that “hole” will be filled with the “first available”. Most likely it won’t be what you would wish.

As you add to your winning list you will build your confidence in your ability to make changes. The exercise will also bring to the surface new inventive ideas. Start a second list of POSSIBILITIES.

Allow the new ideas to approach you as they are. Just because a particular idea seems beyond your abilities at the moment, write it down anyway. Remember that tomorrow everything can change. What seems impossible today may be right next week.

Do not throw away any of your inspired thoughts. Acknowledge each of them as they arrive. WHEN IN DOUBT…WRITE IT DOWN!

I would like to share with you an excerpt from an e-mail I received from The Intenders group some years ago:

“You are called, now, to give birth to a new way of life for yourself and for all those who walk this world with you. You stand poised at the threshold of great expansion in your perceptions, your possibilities, and your consciousness.

Now is not the time to settle for less or to think small! You are here to rise up and out of the prevailing paradigm of beliefs by shining your light, sharing your joy and your love.”

Happy 2016! May it be your best year yet!

 

Reverend Lois Cheney

RevLois@gmail.com

 

 

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