What is the First Rule of Love? It is to listen, to be fully present and to intently listen.  Listening is a skill that very few of us have taken the time to fully practice.

What makes the act of listening a rule of love or perhaps an example of love in action? It is simply this: when we take the time to thoughtfully listen to others, being completely aware of, and in the “now” moment, we are truly accessing our own ability to offer unconditional love and acceptance.

As most of us are aware the unconditional kind of love that Spirit asks of us comes only when we allow and accept others to be just as they are without judging. When we take the time to thoughtfully listen to the ideas, thoughts, desires and fears of others (without formulating our own response before they are finished) we are acknowledging that “you” are as important and valuable as “me”!

Being willing to give attention to others requires effort and more than a little discipline. No matter how spiritual we feel we are, there is that little voice, mostly ego, which says we and our ideas are somehow “right”. However there are rewards in making that extra effort to give an opportunity to others to be heard.

If you have ever worked in a business situation you are aware of the value of knowing the feelings of employees as well as employers. Information and new ideas allow improvement in the workplace. Certainly in everyday life gathering fresh ideas can lead to broader understanding and the possibility of real wisdom.

But there is one aspect of listening that is perhaps the most important of all. That listening can only happen in the depths of the silence of meditation where Spirit, your High Self and Soul dwell.

If you want to truly know and experience the expansion of your personal life path, enter into that sacred silence and listen with your mind and your heart. All the direction and help you will ever need are waiting for you there. Now is the time. It is never too late. YOU CAN LIVE YOUR PURPOSE!

When we are willing to become still and earnestly desire guidance there is yet one more tool that will help. That tool is gratitude. Express your gratitude for all that is in your life whether it is health or sickness, friends or enemies, every experience in the past or present because all of that has made you who you are today. Through it all you have been taught and you have learned!

I firmly believe that gratitude and love are inseparable. In the most deeply felt thankfulness we cannot help but love all of life. Gratitude brings us into the awareness of how holy and magnificent a gift this life is.

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Have you ever really seen a flower? Have you looked at a flower in depth? I think we all appreciate the beauty of a flower. All flowers are pretty whether it is a daisy on the lawn or a bouquet from the florist. But have you seen more than just petals and stem? Have you seen all of it both within and without? Have you sought to know a flower’s life force?

A flower is a microcosm of all life. It begins as an idea or pattern held by the mother plant. That pattern creates the bud. From a tightly closed bud it moves on to full flowering. Ultimately, while seeming to wither, instead it forms a vibrant living seed.

From that seed begins the next cycle. When given the right soil that seed births a new mother plant. Every action is purposeful. Every phase of that plant based life cycle is meaningful and important.

I encourage you to begin seeing any flower from chrysanthemum to tulip with different eyes. See not just a single color but a collage of shades of color. Look at its powder dusted center. Feel the soft consistency found there. Smell the fragrance and let it take you back to memories that it stirs within you. Feel any sensations and emotions that are triggered by the colors and the scent.

In your imagination see yourself touch the petals of your favorite flower from the center to the outer edges. As a child perhaps you loved dandelions. Reacquaint yourself with all the texture of those dandelions or any of your favorite blooms. Enjoy looking at the variety existing within the smooth surfaces; ridges, curves, diagonal lines. When you are satisfied that you truly know the flower, go within its heart where its true essence lies. Find the life flow that is its truth. Feel the vibration, the activity that is occurring within it. Discover the energy, the life force that pulses there.

That motivating creative energy that propels itself from the plant into its outpouring as a flower is the same energy that is within you. Yes it manifests itself differently but it is still the magnificent energy that underlies all life. Whether that energy forms a person, a mountain or a sea, it is the one energy of Light or Spirit.

It is our tendency as busy humans to take much of life for granted. We hurry through our days with hardly any sense of the miracles that surround us. If you will spend just a few moments every day opening your senses of sight, hearing, touch and smell to a greater depth, your appreciation of the gift of life itself will enlarge.

Walk outside in the early morning. Listen to all the varied sounds. Feel the moisture in the air. Note the color of the sky, the shapes of the clouds.  Watch the birds, the squirrels, the way the breeze moves the leaves on the trees. If you will take the time to enjoy nature in that way you will find yourself in an eyes-open walking meditation. Your willingness to relax and lose yourself in nature, to still the chatter of your mind, brings an excellent opportunity to hear the voice of Spirit. Ask questions of your guides and your angels. Then just listen.

When you are completely open and aware, truly thankful for all that is, the cosmos herself will open to you in unexpected and gratifying ways. Each day reveals itself as a gift to treasure. Those sometimes harsh aspects of day to day work fade into mere background noise, just shadows on the wall.

Your own thankfulness triggers more and more reasons to be joyful. Each new moment shows itself as a blessing. Decide today to label every day “good” from morning through night because every day is good. Every day is a beautiful gift. Exercise your imagination to expect wonderful rich surprises.

As we begin to know life’s many miracles we cannot help but radiate a deeper form of love to all those we touch. Appreciation for people, animals and the entire natural world comes easily. Love and loving become our way of life. Those events we used to label “irritations” or worse become merely “curiosities” that lead us to greater understanding of ourselves and others.

No life is without challenges. Perhaps you may have encountered relationship problems, money woes, physical discomforts of various kinds. All of these experiences seem real enough but what is important is where we put our attention, where we decide to spend our energy and what we amplify.

It is our intention and attention that form the fabric of our life experiences. Belief in the basic goodness of life is a wonderful tool for positive creating. Speak words of affirmation for your life and the lives of other. See yourself moving forward implementing your plans with ease and grace.

Giving center stage and great applause to what we don’t want makes no sense. Why not decide to acknowledge all the goodness and beauty both within and without? Go within. Activate that magnificent energy that you can form in any way you choose. You are able to access your personal ability to bring all of your experiences and manifestations to a higher level.

Decide to believe that everything you sense around you has at its core, as its base material and construction, Love and Light. Everything, everyone, every creation has as at its origin, its center, Love and Light. No matter the outer appearance it can be no other way.

To be completely and fully alive, we need to sharpen our senses. We need to be inquisitive about all life and embrace the variety we encounter with courage.

But where to start? First begin by sensing the qualities and attributes of your world. Investigate Mother Earth’s natural laws, her plants, her animals and her human inhabitants with all their varied actions and motivations.

Then decide to accept and allow all that “is” exactly as it is in this moment, even if at first you must do it from a distance. Taking those beginning steps of exploration and analysis, looking squarely at how things are now, will reveal much to you about your own life path.

I elect to call this day including all its ups and downs, all its ins and outs, not only good but “PERFECT”. Yes I see it as totally and absolutely perfect. I am certain it is perfect because, as always, it has brought me new experiences and new understanding. And when tomorrow arrives, bringing its multiple discoveries and gifts, I will label it “PERFECT” as well!

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You are powerful. You have the right and the power to be completely in charge of your own life. You have all the options. You and only you have the right to decide what emotions you will feel, what thoughts you will think. YOU ARE THE DETERMINING ENERGY FOR YOUR LIFE.

Let’s talk about habits for a minute. Habits can be very helpful. For instance you don’t bother to think where the light switch is in the bathroom because you have turned it on hundreds of times. You can find a spoon for your coffee almost without looking. Perhaps you wake in the morning without an alarm clock. Well worn habit pathways make life easier but I am sure you know not all habits are beneficial.

Returning to our topic of emotions and thoughts: If I asked how you regulate your emotional barometer, how diligently you are controlling your emotions, you might tell me for instance “My emotions just happen.” “I have no control over my automatic emotions.” “I can’t change them.”

Ah, but perhaps your emotions “just happen” because of the well worn habit pathways you have created. Perhaps they “just happen” because long ago, albeit unconsciously, you decided which way to react to certain similar situations and that reaction pathway became habit.

On the matter of thoughts, I grant you that many times they simply seem to fly unbidden in and out of our heads. Nonetheless, you can decide which ones you will allow to live in your mind, which ones you will house. You have the power to send away those ideas and images that are not for your best good.

Let me say this: you can decide today, this very minute, to keep or abandon any old emotional reaction as well as any old thought. If the patterns you made long ago do not please you today, erase them, discard them. You can decide to begin right now to feel and think in an entirely different way, forge a new path. You are a virtual master of those positive changes if you wish to be.

Yet, many of us continue to give away our power to others. We react to seemingly negative comments or actions of a friend, spouse, or family member. Perhaps we bring our temper to bear either silently or aloud on the actions and words of an unhappy clerk in the store. We keep mentally rehearsing a hurtful incident minutes perhaps hours long past.

How do I know this? I have caught myself more than once mentally piling up what I considered to be wrong actions taken, wrong words spoken, by my daughter. Fortunately when my personal outward emotional explosion happened the other day, the result of an incident which for me was “one last straw,” my daughter was at work and not physically present.

In order to encounter a “last straw” you have to be collecting a lot of straws! I am working on myself to let go of things when they happen or even as they are happening rather than putting them in an emotionally charged shoebox for later use.

When you or I react negatively to another person’s ideas and actions we hurt ourselves! Even worse than just the effect of a heavy emotional reaction on the very cells of our physical body and mind is the fact that through experiencing and giving space in our hearts to that emotion, we GIVE AWAY OUR ENERGY to the offending situation or person. Is that what we really want to do?

Over and over again we amplify the very thing we do not want to see manifest in our lives. How foolish is that? We use our ability to create the exact opposite of our heartfelt desires.

Living your personal truth is challenge enough without giving attention to every other word, thought, advice or direction that is offered to you. It is not bad to be sensitive to what is happening around you. Go ahead, be aware. You can listen. You can listen to everything. Just monitor your reactions carefully. What are you storing in your body and mind?

There are people who will tell you it is “flu season”. “Everybody is getting it.” Decide if you wish to accept that belief. Someone may say to you that because your whole family has a history of this or that malady, you most certainly will succumb. Is that what you want? “They” may tell you that because of current financial situations your new business has to fail. Do you want to quit before you start? Be selective in those ideas that you internalize because positive or negative they will manifest.

It is always good to pick up helpful ideas from others; however, it is most assuredly detrimental to your life progress to accept every seemingly offensive word or action that on the surface appears to be aimed at you. Take only that advice which resonates with your innermost guide. Let the rest go. Let that which is not for your best good float away on the breeze.

No matter how much effort you make, how wonderful your social skills, how loving you are, not everybody is going to like you. Not everybody is going to applaud your way of doing things…not your family, not your friends, not your lover. The most important skill you can learn is to allow criticism to slide right off of you. Knowing who you are, what your goals are, and taking some action every day to achieve those goals, that is what is important.

Recognizing that every individual who is present today has different lessons, different life direction is a big boost to finding your personal tolerance, your ability to honestly smile and allow. As long as you are not receiving any physical harm simply allow others to think and do as they would. It certainly is not up to you or me to decide what is right or wrong for another’s life.

This attitude of allowing and accepting would seem to be the most difficult for us in the case of friends and family. For whatever reason we all seem to be particularly talented in recognizing the faults of others. My advice? Send the Light and Love to all, see the Light and Love, be the Light and Love. It is always appropriate. In many cases it is the best you can do. Whether it is accepted or not, it is always absolutely correct.

Know that other folk’s “mistakes” maybe exactly what they need to learn and grow. Don’t take away their lessons. It is not for their best good. Offer advice only when seriously asked. Many times that apparent call for help is not for you to fix anything but rather is really only a call for you to be a good listener.

You and I have chosen to live in this world of opposites. Yes, it was our decision. I believe our most valuable learning comes from observing the interplay of the positive and negative. If we will rise to our personal challenges, if we dare to be that which our innermost self would have us be, we will have lived the best of lives. Live from your heart and soul. Spirit’s wisdom will knock on your door every day sometimes in pleasing attire and sometimes in rags.

I believe in differences. I believe in your personal uniqueness. I encourage you to explore all your gifts, all your talents. Throw away any inhibitions or fears that you have collected along the way. I know each one of you is unique in all this earth. You are special, valuable and important. Claim your personal power. This is your chance for the best life ever. Use it to the fullest. TAKE CHARGE OF YOU!

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Let me be straight forward about this subject: I believe in dreams, I believe in dream interpretation, I am enormously thankful for my dreams, but sometimes…

Lately I have had numerous requests to teach my dream workshop in various locations, various cities. Because I want to do my very best for these presentations my mind has been focused on continually improving what I offer.

The result of that intention to be at the “top of my game” manifested many, many restless nights when I felt it necessary to wake up and record yet another dream…just in case!

Those of you who have kept a dream journal for any length of time know how I felt. Dream work becomes a bit of a compulsion if you allow it. That is why I always tell my students that following their dreams needs to be a joy not a job.

With all that dreaming and writing, many are the mornings I would start my day feeling as if I had been trenching through a war zone. I finally decided I needed better continuous sleep. After all I did have my counseling and other matters requiring my attention.

I found a solution! I simply had a serious talk with my dream-maker. “If you only wake me when a dream involves new ways of service, one that uses me and my own storehouse of unconditional love and light, I promise to write down all the details.”

Thank goodness that worked. I had to repeat that talk a couple of nights in a row just to make the impression, indicate my seriousness, but yes it worked. “Wake up, wake up” dreams kept coming but not by the bushel basketful.

Perhaps I just needed to convince myself that my workshops did not have to be “perfect”. No, I haven’t stopped dreaming, but I do get a lot more sleep. Bless my subconscious mind! It does take direction well. Plus it never sleeps because “she” never needs it!

I am wishing all of you the happiest and most productive of dreams even if some of them come to you as nightmares just to get your attention.

If I may help you with dream interpretation or any Spirit channeled information, call today for your private appointment. I am always happy to help you with a reading or a complete chakra clearing utilizing sound, color and crystals.

Reverend Lois Cheney, E-mail: RevLois@gmail.com or Telephone: (941)961-2783.

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HOW VALUABLE IS YOUR INTUITION?

Those flashes of insight that we all have, are you using yours? Exactly when and how can extra sensory perception be trusted?

How can you determine the origin of those sudden impulses that urge a change in your plans or direction? What is the source of the information? Can you rely on it?

Do you want more in depth understanding of your world? Would intuitive development be of use to you in your day-to-day living? If the best information was always available to you, would you be willing to use it?

Understandably many of my students push to amplify their native intuitive abilities in order to gain a closer rapport with their guides and teachers. If you can clearly hear the advice offered by your personal masters, high self and angels, life path decisions become not only obvious but increasingly accurate as well.

Following such high level wisdom is sure to put you on an upward soul activating path. That wise direction can assist you to circumnavigate many of the usual earth bound pitfalls.

As your reception of Spirit transmissions increases in clarity you have the opportunity to ask for and receive increasing help for all your activities. Help is close by and continuously available.

When you or I plot a course of action using only our ego or rationale as a guide, there is no guarantee of the desired results. If instead, we seek a higher level of wisdom, the odds of success are greatly magnified. Why not choose to improve the quality of our lives by using all of our inner plane friends and abilities?

When I teach workshops aimed at psychic activation I find that each student has slightly different reasons for pursuing inner development. Nevertheless the vast majority simply want to be able to see below the surface of their experiences and interactions with others. In other words they feel that if they can understand the motivations that are present in their relationships, there is a greater possibility of harmony.

Some of those troublesome relationships that need investigating or smoothing may occur in the work place. It may be the need to feel what is really being conveyed between boss and employee. It may be the desire to understand what would please a buyer/consumer as opposed to what he or she is verbalizing.

When I sold real estate years ago I found that many times that buyers would tell me what they believed they wanted or needed but would buy something completely different. They did not consciously set out to lie, they simply were not fully aware of the kind of property that would truly satisfy some particular inner need or longing. My ability to see below the surface of their needs helped me to make sales I would have lost otherwise.

Often where friction is being encountered in personal relationships the point of disagreement has little to do with the real problem. Dealing with nothing more than the surface conflict, just the obvious appearance, is doomed to failure.

In any argument or difference of opinion, much of the source of discord many times lies well below the surface. Intuitive listening can be the best approach to uncovering the truth and finding the true origins of the discord.

I remind you that there is no reward for going it alone in life. In fact, it seems that just the opposite is true. If through mistaken pride we fail to call for and access the help that is always available to us, we many times miss the mark.

I urge you to contact your guides, masters, teachers and angels. Contact them often with your concerns, your questions, your plans. They are happy to help but they wait for your request.

From time to time I present a fun workshop offering a number of easily learned tools for developing personal psychic abilities. I give so many different methods for pursuing you own intuition that I can safely promise that there is something for each of you to use effectively. The workshop spans three hours and is planned to allow each of the participants their own unique experience of extra sensory perception.

The use of your own intuitive abilities is completely unlimited. That talent can help you find your soul mate as well as lead you to a better way of making money! Intuition can find you the best healing modality for any disease. It can boost your self confidence. It can plan a vacation that does not leave you stranded in a snowed-in airport!

On Saturday, October 3rd I will be offering my “Psychic Play, A Workshop”. I will be teaching from 1 to 4pm that afternoon at Angel Ministries, 2269 South Tamiami Trail, Venice, Florida 34293.

Whether you are an experienced intuitive or just a little curious or even skeptical, I cordially invited you to reserve a spot for this fun learning opportunity. You were born psychic; you just need to find the path.

For reservations for the Psychic Play workshop the first week in October, call me, Reverend Lois Cheney at (941)961-2783 or e-mail: RevLois@gmail.com.

I want to help you find answers to all your questions and challenges. To schedule a counseling session in person at my Sarasota studio or by phone you can reach me by telephone or e-mail.

Please know that all psychic readings and appointments are strictly confidential and are accompanied by a complete cassette recording of your session for your later review.

You want to manifest your highest desires. Spirit is longing to express itself through you. You invite your heart and soul wisdom for input. You earnestly try to send the right kind and amount of energy. You expect results. All of that is a good thing.

The one difficulty with expectations is that you sometimes become very fixed in what you insist upon for an outcome. In being so exacting in the form of your intentions and their timing, you can block a much better, more satisfying result.

Spirit knows the most beneficial form of your creation and the optimum timing of its arrival. When you do not allow flexibility in either form or timing you may lose the best result.

Nothing that any of us plan to do, no action that we take, can be accomplished in a vacuum. In other words every action we initiate has a ripple effect. Each result we create with our intentions and our energy touches others in some way.

If you can be more open to variations in your desired creation, you will allow the highest and best not only for yourself but for those people who will be blessed by your manifestation as well.

As separate as each of us may feel from time to time, the truth is we are not alone. We are irrevocably joined with the earth and all life. This joining is the reason we need to ask always for “this or something better to bless all those concerned.” Or as the Buddhists might say “intend no harm”.

You have incarnated here on earth at a highly energized time. It is a time of great volatility but also great progress. Your life path is vitally important as you work with all other light workers to energize this period of ascension. You like all of us deeply desire to fulfill your personal purpose as well as your cosmic one.

If I can help you in any way to access your life goals through the channeling of your personal guides and teachers, call for your private appointment. All reading sessions are completely confidential and will be recorded for you. I will meet with you either in my Florida studio or by telephone.

Ordained by Angel Ministries, I am Reverend Lois Cheney, psychic, clairvoyant and lecturer. (941) 961-2783 or E-mail: RevLois@gmail.com.

The same old Spirit? Yes and no. The same Spirit but seemingly completely new when viewed through the eyes of over 100 windows of sparkling Light.

Those windows of Light I am referencing were the fantastic souls in attendance at the 24th Dowsing and Healing Conference held for five days at the end of April in Fayetteville Arkansas. It has taken me two weeks to really digest all of the inspiration I received there.

It never fails to amaze me that after 30 some years of teaching, lecturing and counseling I always find a new thought and a new way. Even one of my “usual workshops” takes on a new energy and direction as I lecture to different groups.

What surprised me the most at the convention was to find an extraordinary number of my personal soul group among the attendees. It makes me wonder: How far ahead of time did we collaborate in the silence to make this meeting happen?

I am extraordinarily grateful to the Ozark Research Institute founders, Gladys and Harold McCoy, and their many helpers for the year long effort it requires to sponsor the convention.

On the surface each presenter at the convention came from a completely different point of view. The truth is they were all simply pointing their own unique way of accessing the Light of Spirit and soul path for which we continually yearn.

Individual channeling of Spirit energy was the thrust of every presentation. Regardless of whether the class concerned the “72 Names of God”, “Spoon Bending”, “Treasure Mapping”, “Dreams”, “Energetic Healing” or “Life Path”, the focus remained on accessing and using Spirit-Soul guidance and energy.

I am grateful for every client who sought my private counseling while I was in Fayetteville. I feel blessed to be allowed to help each of them. Every reading I offer amplifies my own abilities to uplift and enlighten others.

It is always amazing to me how many roads there are to the same destination— creation of the soul’s learning and progress! I think at this particular time in earth’s evolution we are all feeling a greater pressure to actuate our lives to the fullest. Our overriding desire is to fully encompass our Spirit in this human body. We want to know with certainty that we are doing the work we came here to do.

Every “clue” that we can gather to point us in the direction of our greatest life fulfillment is valuable. We are each endowed with an abundance of personal talent and creativity. It is up to each of us to bring our uniqueness forward in a way that will bless not only ourselves and the people we touch but our living earth as well.

Where does your personal road lead? Are you here to work with the plant or animal kingdom? Did you come to teach other Light Bearers through your personal gifts and understanding? Is offering peace and non-judgment your path? What is your unique way to bring the Light of Spirit, the I Am Presence to the earth and her people at this time?

I am here in my Florida studio to help you with any of your life challenges. I offer you a confidential reading appointment in my Florida counseling room or by telephone. In either case, I will give you a tape recording of your session for your later review in the privacy of your home.

It is my joy to help by channeling the guidance of your personal guides and masters. The messages of recurring dreams can be deciphered for you. In addition, I am able to bring you information from your loved ones in spirit if you desire.

I am your Sarasota Florida Psychic, Reverend Lois Cheney, (941)961-2783 or E-mail: RevLois@gmail.com

Words are wonderful tools. Words create pictures and feelings for us whether they are written or spoken. But there is a significant problem with offering words: each of us understands their meanings in a slightly different way.

Don’t get me wrong I love words, language. I am particularly enamored with any sort of dictionary or encyclopedia. However, just lately I have begun to realize how vastly different individual interpretation and understanding of words can be.

In my recent workshop for the Ozark Research Institute, I handed out envelopes to each of the 30 plus participants. These particular envelopes contained no words at all just similar photographs. The pictures of various flowers which I placed in the envelopes were truly beautiful ones taken by my daughter.

The students were advised just to hold the envelopes for a period of time without opening them. Later each told the class what vibrations they had felt or sensed from the envelopes. Even though the contents of those envelopes were similar, each one of the students felt something different. No one was wrong even though no one expressed the word “flower”.

It was obvious even with a highly detailed photograph and no written words as a distraction, individual impressions are different. Each member of the class came from a somewhat different background, had encountered different experiences and consequently each was impressed with a completely different aspect of their personal envelope.

Some felt earth or dirt. One who had the photo of the parrot tulips quite accurately saw a deep purple color. Another simply felt water. One detected pulsing life. And one of the students who had the picture of white lilies saw the color red which I believe was simply the life energy of the flowers.

But I can honestly say no one was wrong. They simply understood things in a different way, were attracted to realities of the photos from their own unique perspective.

In my work as a counselor a great percentage of the problems that clients bring to me are those which exist in their relationships. These difficulties are apparently very similar in nature whether the relationships with which they are involved are intimate, spousal, family, friendship or workforce related. These problems all have a major component of either misunderstanding or total lack of accurate communication.

If our goal is to communicate with each other from the wisdom of our indwelling Spirit, then that communication has to carry more depth than mere words. We need to begin speaking or writing from our intuitive vibration. We need to choose our words as well as our accompanying emotional wave length with great care.

The most ignored principle of good communication is the first one. If we want to be heard we must first listen to the other person and we must listen with love. When we can hear with our hearts, there is a much better opportunity to gain understanding and make an appropriate reply.

Unfortunately, many times we are so busy framing a response to someone’s ideas that we really are not hearing them at all. We have heard this or that similar situation before and think we have the right answer. Often we do not if simply because their situation is not exactly the same as any other problem or challenge.

If you can bring the energy of love’s wisdom, the deep understanding that exists in your heart and soul to all your interactions with others, you will begin to evolve any relationship.

Whether you are speaking to loved ones, friends or strangers, learning to use your highest spirit-inspired words will enable you to move forward with grace. You will lift and inspire all those around you.

My Buddhist friend tells me that it is an affront to Spirit to ever take offense at another’s words or actions. Why? Because if we are offended, we have judged. We believe that the words were an attack against our ego, our self image. We have taken the position that we are entitled to say that the person was “wrong”. We have decided that we have the right to be “hurt”.

We have all heard: “don’t take anything personally” “It’s not about you, it’s them.” Sometimes that is not so easy. If we practice taking the high road in our associations with others, allowing others to be who they are, as they are, life becomes much more pleasant. We can begin to learn instead of suffering.

I am not suggesting that we toss out our ability to intelligently discriminate in our relationships. We need to know when we are moving down a path that will not be for our best good.

If we have exhausted all our best ideas of verbal interaction with anyone and find ourselves at an impasse, it may be necessary to love someone from a distance. It may be necessary to move that person off the center stage of our life up to the balcony or even out to the curb.

We cannot force all relationships to work the way we wish. The most we can do is to give more inner attention to the way we speak and write. If we will do that we will encounter less resistance to our communication with others.

The workshop I offered at the recent conference in Arkansas brought me great joy as I witnessed the enthusiasm of the students. I had opportunities to counsel with many of those who attended. If I can be of help to you with any of your questions or life challenges, simply call or e-mail for your personal appointment. I can meet you in my Florida studio or work with you over the telephone. In either case I will give you a complete recording of your private session.

I am Reverend Lois Cheney (941) 961-2783 or E_mail: RevLois @gmail.com