How do you personally react to unexpected, unplanned for change? Is a small or large change exciting, perhaps energizing? On the other hand is it unsettling? Is it frightening?

Does your reaction and emotion depend solely on how large or pervasive the change is? Does your feeling about any particular change depend on whether or not it opposes your intended plans?

I feel all of us can readily acknowledge that change is an ongoing and unavoidable part of life! If we know how to use change to fuel our personal progression, allowing it to open our view of life’s ongoing flow, it can then introduce us to new more productive ideas. The first rule is resist not!

If each of us would be more accepting of the inevitability of change perhaps we could be more accepting of the changes themselves as they occur. In fact we could let go of any tendency of immediate resistance which then would allow us to halt any rush to negative judgments about a particular change of direction or new happening. Whether you realize it or not, every change can be a beautiful gift.

It appears that most of us at this particular time in earth’s evolution are earnestly seeking the evolution and ascension of our own souls. It seems you and I desire to move up higher to ascend to an understanding of our oneness with all life and our greater purpose. We truly aspire to honor the divinity of all but from time to time find ourselves lapsing into the old ways of judgment. We dig in and declare we want our way. We feel everyone else should see how “right” we are and conform.

For each of us individually and jointly to reach a higher view of ourselves, our world and others, we must let go of many of the labels and judgments we have previously used. In that quest it seems especially important first to accept all manner of changes as they occur and then to use those changes as stepping stones to elevated accomplishments. In other words, when we insist on our plans working to our specific specifications, we many times block what could have been much improved outcomes!

On the matter of accepting and allowing it could be that when we find ourselves mired in the sameness of everyday life, it might serve us to deliberately introduce change. When there is no “fresh breeze” flowing through our lives we can stagnate. Ideas are few and far between. That is the time to consider the benefits of intentional change.

What sort of change might be beneficial? Large changes or even tiny ones can gift you with a different point of view, a new focus. Take the class or workshop you thought about but never made the effort. Get a haircut and a massage. Look for an apartment with a view. Give some of your time to a cause that you believe in. Become a Big Brother or Sister. Make an innovation of any sort that appeals to you and see what happens!

I personally am good at making detailed plans for most any event but I am also good at winging it! I had a friend tell me that I am the only person he knows who can pick up and move across town or across the world without a second thought or fear. Why can I do that? Because I trust myself and my intuition.

I know that each one of you who are reading this have the same ability to feel your own best actions and options. Your intuition is just waiting for you to fearlessly acknowledge your own perceptions and take appropriate action. If you are mired in too much sameness, do something about it. Pick a direction and take it!

If your new effort works to your satisfaction, great! If not try again. Everything you do, every result you encounter provides feedback with an opportunity to learn. Enjoy every experience. Embrace the gift of change. Know with every change you are moving forward to new heights.

As I write this article I am sitting in my new Cottonwood, Arizona home. I have been here nearly two weeks and I love it. The desert began to call me a couple of months ago from Sarasota Florida where I had been living and working. I am very glad I listened!

If I can help you with any of your life questions and challenges, contact me by phone or e-mail. All appointments are strictly confidential. E-Mail: RevLois@gmail.com or Phone: (928) 300-2030.

Today I am giving you a very special gift. I am printing for you the personal permission slip you were given when you entered this lifetime. It says: “In this moment and now and forever you are granted the unending right to be and express that very special, unique, unusual individual you were born to be.” Now I must ask you: Are you willing to use that right?

Just as no two snowflakes are alike, you are not like any other person on this earth or possibly any other life form in the cosmos. It is your own individuality that is your gift. You are special and important. I applaud all your differences.

Somewhere deep inside you lives a power filled urging to carve your own path, to pull away from whatever anyone else thinks you should or ought to do. Your soul pushes you to express your uniqueness, to take chances by acting on your wildest ideas.

Oh, yes, you may have goals and objectives that are similar to the ideas of others, but your way of accomplishment will never be the same. Your methods will not be identical to those of anyone else. You were born to shine in your own way. None of you are clones.

Why is this so important? Because by acknowledging your unique desires and abilities you are shedding the inhibiting guidelines you have absorbed or inherited from family, friends or coworkers. This letting go of past instructions will allow you to finally fully actuate the life that your soul intended from your birth. By projecting the truth of who you are into your life, you may lose a friend or two but I promise you will attract others who see and appreciate the light and love that you are.

Going along with mass thought, following the majority or the crowd will not make you happy. It is not only O.K. to use the road less traveled, the belief system less used, it is necessary. Each of you must carve your own path by following the urging of your heart. When you feel joy pour over you like a warm shower you are pursuing exactly what you need to do regardless of anyone else’s opinion or reaction.

Because you are individual, one of a kind, there is no single plan, no one way for gaining those experiences and that education for which you came to earth, for which you incarnated to be here at this particular time in the planet’s evolution. “One size” does not now and never will “fit all”.

Do you have day dreams or night visions that tug at your heart, dreams that beg you to follow them? Do not let them get away for lack of your attention. Write down your desires. Maybe you feel they are impossible or impractical but do not let them get away.

If your dreams are important enough to stir your soul, imagination and emotion, they are important enough to keep. Those dreams can be Spirit’s way of giving you directions, allowing you to attain resonance with your soul. What does not work today may well work tomorrow. Just acknowledging the desires of your heart can magnetize your personal energy to draw others to help you. Writing those heartfelt desires in a journal brings them energy and life.

As a psychic, I offer Dream Work as well as Intuitive

Development classes from time to time. I design all of those classes to be as much fun and games as possible simply because people seem to learn much faster in that kind of format. Why study dreams? Why push toward intuitive development? Because if you become more aware of the inner essence or truth of what is happening within you and around you, you can make more life affirming choices.

I believe too many of us go through life holding back our words and thoughts for fear of offending someone with our beliefs or saying something too “far out.” Much to my daughter’s embarrassment, I have a habit of striking up a conversation about anything most anywhere. One night when we were entertaining I asked our guests “Have any of you ever seen a U.F.O.?” I could almost feel my daughter sink into the carpet. But that question started a very lively and interesting conversation.

Let me tell you about my trip to Walmart the other day. This story has nothing to do with guides, angels and masters or even the meaning of life but here it is anyway. I had just walked in the back door of Walmart when I noticed this little curly haired older lady with an empty shopping cart. She was leaning just a bit on a small cane. Without meaning to I began to laugh so hard I nearly turned inside out.

Naturally she turned to look at me. I touched her lightly on one shoulder and said “I just can’t help it. I got the funniest idea in my mind that I was going to grab your cart and run down the aisle with you chasing me. I would never do such a thing and I can’t imagine why I even thought it! I must be tired to get so silly.” By that time we were both laughing till people began to stare. She said, “Worse than that, I wouldn’t have been able to catch you!”

I like to think that both of us felt a little lighter after all that fun. I smile every time I think about it. We tend to take everything in life so seriously that once in a while we just need a little comic relief.

To some degree all of us are the product of those “rights and wrongs” we learned in childhood. Our parents with their beliefs and understanding did the best they could to guide us but as adults we need to look carefully at those early rules and judgments that may no longer serve us. We need to acknowledge something as basic as it is alright to talk to strangers.

In still another realm of influence we may be tempted to “fall in line” with our friends or co-workers ideas of what is right for us when what we really need is to learn to listen to our soul’s directions.

To illustrate our tendency to do the so called right or expected thing, let me tell you about my cat Festus. I had just moved with my adopted alley cat, Festus, to a new home in Austin, Texas. I was worried that he would become disoriented in the neighborhood so I bought a little harness and attached him with a chain on the patio under the shade of the roof. I intended to keep him tied for maybe three days until he could understand that this was his new home.

All went well for a couple of days. I kept him fed, watered and shaded. Then on day number three I came out to pet him and there was no Festus, just a harness and a chain. I immediately started searching the neighborhood and spotted him a few blocks down the street. When I called to him he ran the opposite direction. I thought that was the end of that.

However, when I got back to the house there he was, sitting right beside his harness and chain pretending he was still attached. How smart are animals? I have to wonder though if his behavior wasn’t akin to something we do. We break away from some of the old learned behaviors that no longer fit and then, out of comfort or familiarity, we go right back.

Perhaps unconsciously, we feel the need to conform to the patterns that our family or friends have created for us. Most folks have a tendency to resist change. Those people we are close to may be more content with their perceptions of us if we are willing to be predictable. They may be happier if what they have decided to be true about us remains static. In many cases, they prefer it if we will stay in the little identity box they have created for us.

Is it any wonder that we tend to have communication challenges with our relationships when we understand things so differently? Working with your own intuition, sharpening your inner awareness can be a communication tool and blessing. Strengthened intuition absolutely will improve your understanding of others in your life, but equally important, it will help you to understand your own actions and motivations.

I am reminded of one of the Carlos Castaneda books. In it his mentor and teacher, Don Juan, tells Carlos, “You must lose your personal history.” Carlos says he can’t do that. He has earned this degree, he has had this experience. But Don Juan insists, telling him he has to be who he is today, this minute.

I believe that is what each of us must do. Yes, our past has brought us to this day, our current level of understanding, but we cannot live from or in the past. We need to be the new “this minute” us, this “now” us with all our new ideas, understanding and concepts.  It is definitely o.k. to be different! It is right that you and only you should select your current path and ideas.

Embrace change. Welcome it in your life. It is only through change that you can move forward. Look at your own life from a different point of view. Ask yourself questions! Who or what is center stage in your life today? Is there reciprocity in this situation or are you bleeding away all your energy. Does this activity or relationship fill you with joy or emptiness?

Sometimes that which was on center stage in your life needs to be loved from a distance or moved to the curb!

Each of you has a soul that is always prompting you to move forward, to accomplish. It urges you from your heart to be as much as you can be, to use your special gifts and talents.

Listen to that warm, urging heart emotion. If you are able to perceive that heart and soul wisdom with greater understanding and give it your full attention, you will find the way to access a more fulfilling joy and flow in your life.

How can you know if you are on your LIFE PATH? I have the question so many times in my work as a counselor. Fortunately, you have been given the measuring stick or tool to use for just such a question. When the path your are on, the work you are doing is so much a part of you that minutes and hours spent in that endeavor mean nothing, you have found it. When you never bother to look at a clock because you are doing what you love, you are on your path. When your heart sings and your spirit soars, you have found IT!

Being your authentic self, finding your way to your special destination may not happen in an instant. No matter how long it takes, your dedication to the journey will be an inspiration to others. Each step along the way is a learning experience.

Develop the gifts and the talents that you have. Work with those occupations or goals that draw you in and will not let you go. No one person can decide for you what your life is about. Not your closest friend, not your parents, not your spouse can ever know the intimate details of what makes you special.

Be proud of your individuality and make the best use of it. You are important to this earth and all of her inhabitants. No one can make the contribution you came here to make. Believe in yourself and step forward with confidence.

I am always ready to help you with any of your life challenges and questions. Call today for your private counseling appointment. I welcome you to my Sarasota, Florida studio or to a telephone session. In either case I will give you a cassette tape of your reading for your later review. Be sure to ask about chakra clearings with sound, color and crystals and private intuitive development lessons.

Reverend Lois Cheney, (941)961-2783 or RevLois@gmail.com

My daughter came to me the other day to report that her pendulum was not working! I asked her what she meant. She said she had asked it whether she should keep her current job or look for another one. I admit I had to laugh.

“Dear daughter, you didn’t ask one question you asked two. Your pendulum couldn’t give you a yes or no answer.” She knows whenever we use a pendulum we must ask very specific questions to get very specific answers.

I could have gone further with my questions to her. I wanted to ask her what sort of mood and energy she was working with when she used the pendulum. I decided I had asked quite enough for a mere mother.

Here is what would have worked for her: “Should I keep my current job for the remainder of this year to gain the best experience in my field of work?” Or possibly this: “Is there a job available locally in my field at this time for which I am qualified that would pay me an extra $50 per week? How about: “Have I received all the promotions at this company that the employers are willing to give to me within the next six months?”

Each of the above alternative questions could be answered with a definite yes or no. Any one of them would have provided at least part of the information she desired.

Pendulums when correctly used to dowse for information are great tools. There are a few caveats however. First it is important that you are personally balanced and grounded before using the pendulum. There are numerous personal clearing and grounding techniques that work well and take only moments to use.

For clearing and grounding I like to imagine that I am pulling some of the beautiful golden energy of the central sun of our cosmos through my crown chakra. I allow that energy to spread throughout my physical body including all the nerves, cells and muscles. I then send that energy into the very center of the earth to be cleaned or recycled. I pull the renewed energy back up through my body once more.
If I still feel less than grounded or a little scattered, I am inclined to repeat the exercise for a total of three times. Assuming that you are grounded, cleared and balanced, your personality and ego opinions will be safely out of the way! The road will be clear for the arrival of Truth.

Second it is advisable to ask whether the current moment is appropriate for gaining the information you seek. The timing may or may not be right. The energies around the subject may be such that the information would not be accurate.

Third, if you are going to offer information to another person on their behalf, it is also good to ask whether you should! It is not always for someone’s higher good.

Fourth, ask for the highest and best source energy to guide your pendulum. That energy that you believe to be the most pure, positive and reliable whether you call it the White Light, the Cosmic I AM or God or identify it by some other name.

Following the above steps will assure you of the best results. You are then ready to ask that very definite and specific question!

Have fun with your pendulum. Use it often. When the steps for getting prepared become second nature to you, your pendulum or any other dowsing or divining device you use will work even better.

Your life path decisions are very important. When answers are difficult to find call me, Reverend Lois Cheney, for your personal, completely confidential, clairvoyant reading. I will counsel with you in my Sarasota, Florida studio or by telephone. All readings are preserved on a cassette tape for your later review.

I channel the most accurate information available from your own guides, masters and teachers. I am also able to bring spirit messages from your departed loved ones. If past life experiences are important to your current situations, they can be explored as well.

Call or E-Mail: Reverend Lois Cheney
(941)961-2783
RevLois@gmail.com