As a healing channel when I am doing chakra clearing and alignment therapy with clients I notice that those past life memories are carried in the chakras. It is no surprise that as I am working with someone their past life events and traumas come forward to be recognized, addressed and healed.

As both a psychic medium and clinical hypnotist I have seen many interesting effects on a client’s current life as a result of past life experiences. For instance some of my clients when I take them into past life regression have been able to identify the event of the past which is the source of one of their “mysterious” unidentified physical or emotional pains. Having found when, where and why they experienced the pain in a former life rather than the current one, they are able to simply drop the pain, release it and let it go.

Past life regression also has the ability to point out why you decided to incarnate once again and what lessons you came to learn in this lifetime. It can bring you to that time between lives when you chose the pattern for your next life. A regression many times reveals where you may have stopped short of the goal in a former life and need to carry those lessons forward to this one for completion.

During past life regression when you are in a state of hypnosis or deepened meditation and are able to see a person who is in your life now for the second, third or even fourth time, it can be both illumining and somewhat startling. It does appear to be a recurring theme that some of us meet in one life time after another until we get our issues resolved. In that respect past life regression can help you to understand and smooth current life relationship challenges. At the very least it can explain the underlying reasons for the difficulties you may be experiencing.

As I facilitate your experience of past life regression, as with any hypnotic state, you are always in control! You decide what suggestions you wish to accept. Also it is your decision to see and feel the experience of a particular lifetime, carrying it through to completion or to leave it. What you do accept in the experience you will bring back to full waking consciousness and understanding.

The event that brought all these thoughts to the surface for me in last night’s dreams was the anniversary of my Mother’s birth. Even though she has been on the other side for more than 15 years I realize I am still dealing with the old feelings. I am still blaming her!

Because I received very sparse or no affection as a child, there are thoughts that I was not loved and perhaps not lovable. There are still ideas nudging me that if I cannot please someone, some material thing, some privilege, will be taken away.

It is now obvious to me why I entered a difficult marriage when I was so young. In my hopeful escape of childhood it was highly predictable that the marriage would turn out to be yet another voyage lacking outward affection. If I needed further convincing that I was unworthy of loving affection, that union provided it.

All of this must seem extremely foolish meanderings for someone of my age and yet my problem is there, quite real, and needs to be dealt with. In fact all those fear filled ideas are giving my ego the control over my life it wants and needs for its survival.

I have many times rationalized mother’s behavior. She and I were abandoned by my father before I was two years old. Why wouldn’t she feel unloved? Why wouldn’t she turn become wary of expressing any love to others? Somehow all of the rationality I can summon does not fix the problem. It falls back on me to begin the process of forgiving her and forgiving myself.

All the mental knowledge I have does not remove the emotional pain.

So how to begin? I know that we “hand pick” the situation of our birth and our family long before our arrival here on earth. I know that the reasons of our family situations are solely for the purpose of our soul growth. We come here to learn the lessons the earth offers. I know that many times those lessons are pain filled.

At this late date it is of no great importance now for me to know if I was working out some karmic debt. What matters is what growth I allow myself. Will I set about making amends to myself with love and compassion for the past and the present?

In reality there is nothing for which to forgive my mother. Her destined part in our mutual lives was planned long ago. She played her soul’s role well. Yet I must forgive her because I have blamed her for so much.

It is my promise to myself that I will begin reaching out to my mother’s soul with understanding and love. I want to free her from any negativity that I have foolishly placed on her.  My desire is for each of us to be free to access as much soul growth as we wish.

In order for me to be the complete ”grownup” I wish to be, I must heal that little child who still cries within. If any of you can resonate with my hurt and feel your personal inner child is still a little lost, consider taking some remedial action. When your personal child is happy, comfortable with life and loved, your adult actions all become easier and clearer. You can begin seeing life with a much broader perspective.

It is easy to see that actively judging and blaming myself or others does affect my life but not in any positive way. On the other hand I have found that when I love and forgive myself, I am much more allowing and accepting of the sometimes surprising or unusual actions of others! It is a double win.

Take an open hearted look at your life yesterday and today. If you find something that needs extra love and forgiveness, do not wait. Love, love, love! Rest assured that the love you send out will multiply and come back to you. Begin now. Times a wasting!

What do you feel or imagine when you hear the word love? What does it say to you when you read “Love”? Does it bring a particular picture to your mind? Does it fire up your heart?

Does the word itself set you on a journey of imagination remembering a particular person, a special place or experience from your past? Is there a warm and happy glow or is the feeling tinged with sadness?

Perhaps you agree with the poet “It is better to have loved and lost than not to have loved at all.”

Our experiences with being loved and loving are as varied and individual as we are; however, certain easily recognized results occur when true love is present. In fact those specific results seem to be common to all of us as humans when we are giving and receiving love.

When we live in love’s vibration, resonating to the giving and receiving of love, HARMONY graces our interactions with others, our PHYSICAL HEALTH improves, our MENTAL OUTLOOK takes on a sunny optimistic quality and our CREATIVITY SOARS!

Considering such effects we can agree that having and giving love is a positive thing. So why don’t we simply create more of it in our lives? Perhaps the one real difficulty with experiencing more love and bringing additional love into our lives begins when we look for love in the wrong place, expecting it from the wrong source.

We seem to think that someone else should be responsible for bringing that love to us. Apparently we forget that all of the capability for love and loving was placed in us as our birthright. We are absolutely made of love.

All we really need to do is begin with loving and accepting ourselves. Those actions on our part will cause us to become a virtual LOVE ENERGY MAGNET!

When we live the love we truly are by accepting and loving ourselves just as we are, and accepting and loving others as they are, we become irresistible to even more love!

We have been told for our spiritual development, to rise higher, we need to love others “unconditionally”. The unfortunate truth is we stumble at loving ourselves unconditionally, not to mention the problems we encounter when we try to love others without reservations or judgments. Yes, we find loving unconditionally to be quite difficult if not absolutely impossible.

As humans we seem to be stuck in a constant state of judging our own behavior and the behavior of others. That judging tells us that many of us, and many of those around us, are doing and saying things that we find completely unlovable and perhaps unforgiveable.

Perhaps it would help if we were to do a little redefining of this “unconditional love”. What if instead of calling it unconditional love, we name it the “ultimate respect for the divine spark” that is at the heart and soul of each one of us? Loving unconditionally will flow in a natural way if we are able to acknowledge the divinity of each person as a unique creation and give his or her divine origin our respect.

To become the shining essence of love we were meant to be, to radiate that love continuously, we must also practice forgiveness. When we react to someone else’s words or actions by being emotionally hurt or by striking out at them, we must try to remember that the attitude they are presenting to us comes from within them and not us. Forgiving them, forgiving ourselves for our own reactions is healing.

Offering the gift of unconditional love in all situations makes more sense when we are willing to realize that any person always does the one thing which at the time they believe will make things better, or set things right.

Yes, it can be that they did not understand all the facts. They may have acted far too quickly without realizing the hurt that could result. Perhaps they were so desperately trying to find any solution that they simply acted on a misguided impulse. Nonetheless we can be sure that the person only took the action they felt would put things in order in their own little world.

It is not only important to love others, it is supremely important to love and respect ourselves, to forgive ourselves. When we judge ourselves, when we call ourselves “slow” or “thoughtless” or even “mean”, we hurt and impede the physical, mental and emotional flow of our bodies. Believe me when I tell you that your body hears your every word, thought and emotion.

Be kind to yourself. Be assured that the results of any repeated self condemnation will appear. It may start as a little headache, a tightness in the neck, or an uneasy feeling in the stomach but it can grow to be much worse.

Failing to forgive ourselves, failing to forgive others, keeps us stuck in the past. It can be just five minutes past or five years past or five lifetimes past, but we need, in fact, we must, forgive and let go for the sake of our personal health and spiritual progress.

The good news is as we let go of past errors or hurts, we retrieve our energy. We bring it out of the past and into the now where we can make beautiful advances on our life path, wonderful changes. Our inner vision clears. We are no longer fragmented. Once again we are whole!

Living in the present moment, we are stronger: our ideas are more vibrant, more creative. We are able to use all of our capabilities, all of our talents. With each passing day our energies become brighter and lighter as we choose and elect to live in the high vibration of unconditional love.

To step out of judgment, to find deep joy and peace, to progress to living a higher spiritual life, we must embrace love. However, to live in a continual state of love and light requires a daily practice of forgiveness. In a perfect world, we would never take offense at our own actions or the actions of others, but as long as we continue to take things personally, we must become experts in the art of forgiveness.

To forgive is to acknowledge that each one of us is simply a work in progress. We experiment with this method and that always striving for our personal idea of perfection. And, yes, sometimes our outcomes fall far short of the intended goal! Yet it becomes easier to forgive the seemingly unforgivable if we are willing to understand that no two life paths are the same, that no two people are learning their life lessons in the same way and that OUR WAY is definitely not the ONLY WAY.

Unconditional love is a universal antidote for so many of the ills and imbalances that we experience in our lives and in our world. When we come to the realization that it isn’t our job to change anyone but ourselves, and we are willing to allow others to be exactly as they are, we will enjoy a deep inner tranquility.

Living a life of unconditional love is productive, rewarding and yet oh so very peaceful.

I am always ready to offer you Spirit channeled help with any of your life questions and challenges. All appointments are completely confidential and are cassette recorded to take with you to review at your leisure.

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E-Mail: RevLois@gmail.com

Just as no two snowflakes are alike, you are not like any other person on this earth or possibly any other life form in the cosmos. It is your own individuality that is your gift. You are special and important. I applaud all your differences.

Somewhere deep inside you lives a power filled urging to carve your own path, to pull away from whatever anyone else thinks you should or ought to do. Your soul pushes you to express your uniqueness, to take chances by acting on your wildest ideas.

Oh, yes, you may have goals and objectives that are similar to the ideas of others, but your way of accomplishment will never be the same. Your methods will not be identical to those of anyone else. You were born to shine in your own way. None of you are clones.

Why is this so important? Because by acknowledging your unique desires and abilities you are shedding the inhibiting guidelines you have absorbed or inherited from family, friends or coworkers. This letting go of past instructions will allow you to finally fully actuate the life that your soul intended from your birth. By projecting the truth of who you are into your life, you may lose a friend or two but I promise you will attract others who see and appreciate the light and love that you are.

Going along with mass thought, following the majority or the crowd will not make you happy. It is not only O.K. to use the road less traveled, the belief system less used, it is necessary. Each of you must carve your own path by following the urging of your heart. When you feel joy pour over you like a warm shower you are pursuing exactly what you need to do regardless of anyone else’s opinion or reaction.

Because you are individual, one of a kind, there is no single plan, no one way for gaining those experiences and that education for which you came to earth, for which you incarnated to be here at this particular time in the planet’s evolution. “One size” does not now and never will “fit all”.

Do you have day dreams or night visions that tug at your heart, dreams that beg you to follow them? Do not let them get away for lack of your attention. Write down your desires. Maybe you feel they are impossible or impractical but do not let them get away.

If your dreams are important enough to stir your soul, imagination and emotion, they are important enough to keep. Those dreams can be Spirit’s way of giving you directions, allowing you to attain resonance with your soul. What does not work today may well work tomorrow. Just acknowledging the desires of your heart can magnetize your personal energy to draw others to help you. Writing those heartfelt desires in a journal brings them energy and life.

As a psychic, I offer Dream Work as well as Intuitive

Development classes from time to time. I design all of those classes to be as much fun and games as possible simply because people seem to learn much faster in that kind of format. Why study dreams? Why push toward intuitive development? Because if you become more aware of the inner essence or truth of what is happening within you and around you, you can make more life affirming choices.

I believe too many of us go through life holding back our words and thoughts for fear of offending someone with our beliefs or saying something too “far out.” Much to my daughter’s embarrassment, I have a habit of striking up a conversation about anything most anywhere. One night when we were entertaining I asked our guests “Have any of you ever seen a U.F.O.?” I could almost feel my daughter sink into the carpet. But that question started a very lively and interesting conversation.

Let me tell you about my trip to Walmart the other day. This story has nothing to do with guides, angels and masters or even the meaning of life but here it is anyway. I had just walked in the back door of Walmart when I noticed this little curly haired older lady with an empty shopping cart. She was leaning just a bit on a small cane. Without meaning to I began to laugh so hard I nearly turned inside out.

Naturally she turned to look at me. I touched her lightly on one shoulder and said “I just can’t help it. I got the funniest idea in my mind that I was going to grab your cart and run down the aisle with you chasing me. I would never do such a thing and I can’t imagine why I even thought it! I must be tired to get so silly.” By that time we were both laughing till people began to stare. She said, “Worse than that, I wouldn’t have been able to catch you!”

I like to think that both of us felt a little lighter after all that fun. I smile every time I think about it. We tend to take everything in life so seriously that once in a while we just need a little comic relief.

To some degree all of us are the product of those “rights and wrongs” we learned in childhood. Our parents with their beliefs and understanding did the best they could to guide us but as adults we need to look carefully at those early rules and judgments that may no longer serve us. We need to acknowledge something as basic as it is alright to talk to strangers.

In still another realm of influence we may be tempted to “fall in line” with our friends or co-workers ideas of what is right for us when what we really need is to learn to listen to our soul’s directions.

To illustrate our tendency to do the so called right or expected thing, let me tell you about my cat Festus. I had just moved with my adopted alley cat, Festus, to a new home in Austin, Texas. I was worried that he would become disoriented in the neighborhood so I bought a little harness and attached him with a chain on the patio under the shade of the roof. I intended to keep him tied for maybe three days until he could understand that this was his new home.

All went well for a couple of days. I kept him fed, watered and shaded. Then on day number three I came out to pet him and there was no Festus, just a harness and a chain. I immediately started searching the neighborhood and spotted him a few blocks down the street. When I called to him he ran the opposite direction. I thought that was the end of that.

However, when I got back to the house there he was, sitting right beside his harness and chain pretending he was still attached. How smart are animals? I have to wonder though if his behavior wasn’t akin to something we do. We break away from some of the old learned behaviors that no longer fit and then, out of comfort or familiarity, we go right back.

Perhaps unconsciously, we feel the need to conform to the patterns that our family or friends have created for us. Most folks have a tendency to resist change. Those people we are close to may be more content with their perceptions of us if we are willing to be predictable. They may be happier if what they have decided to be true about us remains static. In many cases, they prefer it if we will stay in the little identity box they have created for us.

Is it any wonder that we tend to have communication challenges with our relationships when we understand things so differently? Working with your own intuition, sharpening your inner awareness can be a communication tool and blessing. Strengthened intuition absolutely will improve your understanding of others in your life, but equally important, it will help you to understand your own actions and motivations.

I am reminded of one of the Carlos Castaneda books. In it his mentor and teacher, Don Juan, tells Carlos, “You must lose your personal history.” Carlos says he can’t do that. He has earned this degree, he has had this experience. But Don Juan insists, telling him he has to be who he is today, this minute.

I believe that is what each of us must do. Yes, our past has brought us to this day, our current level of understanding, but we cannot live from or in the past. We need to be the new “this minute” us, this “now” us with all our new ideas, understanding and concepts.  It is definitely o.k. to be different! It is right that you and only you should select your current path and ideas.

Embrace change. Welcome it in your life. It is only through change that you can move forward. Look at your own life from a different point of view. Ask yourself questions! Who or what is center stage in your life today? Is there reciprocity in this situation or are you bleeding away all your energy. Does this activity or relationship fill you with joy or emptiness?

Sometimes that which was on center stage in your life needs to be loved from a distance or moved to the curb!

Each of you has a soul that is always prompting you to move forward, to accomplish. It urges you from your heart to be as much as you can be, to use your special gifts and talents.

Listen to that warm, urging heart emotion. If you are able to perceive that heart and soul wisdom with greater understanding and give it your full attention, you will find the way to access a more fulfilling joy and flow in your life.

How can you know if you are on your LIFE PATH? I have the question so many times in my work as a counselor. Fortunately, you have been given the measuring stick or tool to use for just such a question. When the path your are on, the work you are doing is so much a part of you that minutes and hours spent in that endeavor mean nothing, you have found it. When you never bother to look at a clock because you are doing what you love, you are on your path. When your heart sings and your spirit soars, you have found IT!

Being your authentic self, finding your way to your special destination may not happen in an instant. No matter how long it takes, your dedication to the journey will be an inspiration to others. Each step along the way is a learning experience.

Develop the gifts and the talents that you have. Work with those occupations or goals that draw you in and will not let you go. No one person can decide for you what your life is about. Not your closest friend, not your parents, not your spouse can ever know the intimate details of what makes you special.

Be proud of your individuality and make the best use of it. You are important to this earth and all of her inhabitants. No one can make the contribution you came here to make. Believe in yourself and step forward with confidence.

I am always ready to help you with any of your life challenges and questions. Call today for your private counseling appointment. I welcome you to my Sarasota, Florida studio or to a telephone session. In either case I will give you a cassette tape of your reading for your later review. Be sure to ask about chakra clearings with sound, color and crystals and private intuitive development lessons.

Reverend Lois Cheney, (941)961-2783 or RevLois@gmail.com

Each one of us is born with the ability to “tune in” to situations and people. The difference is that some of us have brought that ability forward, worked with it and encouraged its growth.

If you are reading this I believe you are a person who is motivated to fully actualize your own life. In fact you most likely sense that you have a particular life path that is uniquely your own.

I encourage you to contact me for an individually designed four-part series of Personalized Intuitive Development. I bring my 30+ years of experience in psychic counseling, teaching and investigation to serve your needs and goals.

The four sessions are given by me, one lesson each week, over the period of a month in my Sarasota Florida studio. The instruction is completely private and confidential. Each lesson is constructed to meet your personal desires and talents.

Reverend Lois Cheney (941) 961-2783

www.Sarasota-Psychic-Medium.com E-Mail: RevLois@gmail.com

Suppose it is time for exercise. For your body’s sake you go outdoors for a walk or jog. Instead of plugging your ears with your earphones to listen to your personal music mix, try hearing all the various sounds and seeing all the diverse sights of nature.

Immerse yourself in the life essence of birds, trees and flowers. Hear the crickets; see the dew on the leaves. Do you sense a misty aura of life around all things? Bring yourself to focus on the now moment. Mother Earth gladly sends you healing of mind, body and spirit if you care to absorb it.

Being at peace in nature can allow you to access your highest creativity. New ideas and better ways of living begin to flow in with ease. Inspiration is everywhere. As action is called for it takes on a new grace and purpose.

Do you prepare meals for yourself or friends? In the midst of all that chopping, cooking and arranging where are your thoughts? Are you adding special life enhancing energies to the food and the kitchen? If not, why not?

You have access to all the energy you could ever need. Use that ability of yours to channel energy into the most positive vibrations for yourself and others. The rewards may very well surprise you.

A simple thing like taking a morning or evening shower or tub bath can be much more than physical cleaning. Bless the water. Put your mind on the power of the water. See it refreshing your total energy.

Think of the water as removing all miss-qualified energies of your own or those unwanted attachments that you might have accumulated. Know that as that water leaves you, winding its way down the drain and making its way back to the earth, it will be recycled and refreshed.

I recall a dear friend of mine, a Unity Minister in Illinois, used this principle of ‘double duty’ very well! It was back in the days when as housewives we actually ironed husbands’ shirts. I think now everything is wash and wear.

Anyhow, when my friend Dona would iron her husband’s shirts (a job she really did not like) she would see his back, shoulders and arms filled with fresh energy and healing to carry him through the day. What a gift to someone she loved.

If you begin really paying attention to each activity through your day I am certain you will come upon a number of new ideas to turn ‘little’ things into meaningful adventures in Spirit.

You want to live your life fully following your personal path. Because that is true you may have questions about some of your life challenges. My work is bringing answers from your personal guides, teachers and angels to help you actualize your life in depth.

Call today for your personal and confidential psychic reading appointment. I will help you in my Florida studio or by telephone. Do inquire about my 4-part private intuitive lessons. I am Reverend Lois Cheney, RevLois@gmail.com or (941)961-2783

In years past I have read my special book cover to cover. Now from time to time I pick it up and simply open it to any random page or chapter to see how those words and ideas might apply to my life today.

The book I am referencing is “Living in Balance” by Joel and Michelle Levey. I do not remember how it came into my hands about six or seven years ago. All I know for sure is that I treasure it. It is dog eared and well underlined not by me but by the previous reader. Nearly every page has hand drawn stars and notes in the margin placed there by an unknown reader.

I decided a week or so ago that considering the condition of the book perhaps I should buy a new copy for my book collection and give the old one to someone who might appreciate it as I have. I ordered a fresh copy from Amazon and soon it arrived at my door.

Although the new book was a hardback book rather than paper, in every other way it was identical. It contained the same number of pages, the same words, sentences and chapters, even the publication date was the same 1998. The only apparent difference was that it was free of notes, stars and underlining.

The new book did not attract me. I wasn’t drawn to it. Since other than being in pristine condition this new book was the same collection of words and ideas, why did I refuse to pick it up and read it? It took me awhile to realize the underlying difference.

The former book owner or reader, whoever he or she was, had filled that first copy of mine with loving appreciative energy. It was as if I had not only owned a book full of wisdom but a true treasure filled with a second confirming opinion.

The new book simply had not been imbued with that same intensely warm energy. It felt like a poor copy rather than an original.

Why am I telling you this little story? The reason is that I have observed many times you and I can be motivated by strong energies that we are not consciously aware of. We don’t recognize the source of the energies and mistakenly assume they are ours.

As we move through our days mindfulness or a deeper awareness of the moment can help us to act upon and inculcate only the personally appropriate energies.

My thought is this: All of us can benefit greatly by accessing and amplifying our natural intuitive abilities. If we care enough to work with our own extra sensory perceptions, we will make wiser choices.

If we will take the time to look below the surface of any relationship or occurrence we can become users of more appropriate action as opposed to users of automatic and sometimes erroneous reaction. You know that when we quickly and spontaneously react we are usually allowing someone or some situation to control us.

I believe that most people who seriously approach the amplification of their own intuitive or psychic abilities are looking for a surer pathway to access the wisdom of their own high self, guides and teachers. The pursuit of your own God given perceptions can only lead you to a smoother more accomplished flow of life.

Do not limit yourself by using only the rational approach to daily living. Why should you take such a limited way when all the highest information is available to you? Your guides, your teachers and your angels are continually standing by awaiting your call.

I urge you to contact your guides, masters, teachers and angels. Contact them often with your concerns, your questions, your plans. Above all contact them with gratitude, with genuine thankfulness. That inner energy of gratitude is not for their benefit but for yours.

When you approach anything with an attitude of thankfulness, gratitude for everything in your life, all doors swing wide for you. Your good comes rushing in to meet you.

When you seek the bigger picture, the deeper understanding, your life path will widen and expand. In response to your efforts the Light comes on and brightens both metaphorically and energetically. Your own unique way of spiritual growth and service unfolds.

I am Reverend Lois Cheney your Sarasota Florida Psychic Medium. I encourage you to call for your private counseling appointment. All your questions are important and can be answered with the help of your personal guides and teachers. If you would like messages from departed loved ones, as a medium I will be happy to bring those to you.

All readings are completely confidential. You will be given a cassette recording of your session for later review. You can come to my Florida studio or your reading is available and equally accurate by telephone.

Call today. Reverend Lois Cheney (941)961-2783

If your memories of past situations are causing you to react in ways that are uncomfortable or even harmful to you, to those around you and to your current life experiences, it is time to take action.

I am not suggesting that you forget the past or bury it. What I am offering you may seem a bit unusual at first glance but it does work. I am suggesting that you make some subtle but important changes in the way you remember certain troubling aspects from the past.

It is not at all unusual for us to take a past trauma and rehearse it over and over again. We make the memory strong, harsher and more energized until it is vastly different than the original happening. Hashing and rehashing an unhappy past will not create anything positive.

The method I am going to detail for you will not affect anyone in those memories but it can be a world of help to you. For instance, if you have endured emotional or physical abuse in any relationship begin right now to see yourself responding in a different way.

If someone has lowered or crushed your self esteem with heavy words, see yourself saying something mild and just walking away head held high. “I understand your feelings. I am sorry you feel that way.” Then in your imagination you leave the room and let the words roll off. This takes some memory practice but you can do it. Every time the memory comes to your mind practice it in its new form.

If the suffered abuse was a physical one, construct with your imagination a scenario where a concerned and loving person arrives to intercede on your behalf, someone who takes you out of harm’s way. This memory adjustment will not take hold immediately but eventually with your repetition it will replace the original version. Your harsh emotions will soften and subside. The change will free you to trust life more fully.

The tremendous benefit of restructuring memories of the hurtful past is that you can stop the patterns! You do not need to project that “hurt me” energy over and over again. You can stop manifesting similar situations today and tomorrow.

Once you have pulled the plug on the negative aspects of memories you are back in control. You can create the kind of future you truly want. Remember that the past only exists for you as a series of memories. Because this is so, it only makes sense to put as much peace and joyous living into those memories as your imagination will allow.

On a slightly different aspect of the same principle, anytime today you encounter a happening that is not to your liking, a seeming negative, you have a wonderful choice. Why do you have a choice? Because you are the one in charge of labeling and categorizing any situation you find confronting you.

I remember my first time of taking shorthand notes some years ago. I was working for the director of an Illinois research facility. It was a meeting of the 12 department heads and I was writing as fast as I could to keep up with all the input.

After the meeting, when I was busy typing my notes, the director called me to his office. He said, “Now we will decide what happened at the meeting.” In other words he was using the opportunity to label and categorize the results according to his point of view.

Decide to put some sincere thought into how you label things. In other words if nothing comes together the way you had planned, decide to think that this is an opportunity to find a better plan. Label it, “Opportunity Calling” or just tell yourself that this presents an excellent chance to practice that patience skill you have been wanting.

There is no occurrence that can resist your positive identifying spin no matter how dark it may seem on first look. Deciding that every negative is hiding a good opportunity is the best thing you can do for yourself. It opens your mind to unconsidered or previously ignored chances to learn and grow.

Every one of us have had tragedy touch our lives at some time Let me describe to you how I dealt with one of my own most difficult times.

It was ten years ago this past January. My husband Jim and I had been married for 19 years. We taught classes together. He had his own hypnosis clients. My Jim was recovering nicely from an extensive heart surgery two or three months previously. By all appearances he was as well as I had ever seen him. Then with no warning one sunny Arkansas day he shot and killed himself.

I was presented with a huge choice. Of course I mourned. The choice was whether I should also blame myself. Should I feel guilty that somehow I should have seen his mental/emotional state? Should I have known he needed help? Should I have anticipated the tragedy? Was I obliged to shoulder a heavy load of guilt?

This was my decision and no one else could make it for me. I deliberately elected to tell myself that he had my best interests at heart. I felt that because of his age he was most likely concerned that his health would continue to decline and that decline would make him a burden to me. He loved me enough to not allow that to happen.

Was my view of the situation and its cause pure rationalization on my part? Perhaps, but that attitude allowed me to move forward in a life affirming way. That concept freed me from what could have been years of self recrimination and stagnation.

Whatever “the truth” may have been at the time, I believe that he made a loving sacrifice which has allowed me to give myself fully to the work I am meant to do.

I have no doubt that many of you have moved through equally difficult situations. From my clients, I hear all sorts of problems and traumas that they encountered as children and later as adults in relationships.

The truth is that as long as we continue to rehearse the fears, doubts and worries from the past, we will continue to meet similar troubling situations in the present and the future.

A little time invested in giving those troublesome memories a more positive spin is worth the effort involved. There is no reason to let a heavily charged negative memory ruin your life today.

You want to act within each new situation in a positively appropriate new way. What you do not need or want is to react from the past, from a negative memory trigger which spoils the now moment.

The highest good you can extract from the past is the wisdom you have gained—the knowledge and understanding that has brought you to this moment.

Why improve your hurtful memories? Because general we do exactly the opposite. We amplify the hurts beyond all reason and certainly beyond the truth of the past. This amplification through the continual focus of our energy brings most unwelcome results.

You deserve the very best, happiest, most productive life. You can have exactly that. You are strong, powerful, capable and talented. I believe in your right and ability to choose.

You have all the talent, the creativity and the energy you need to turn any of your personally manifested limitations into teaching tools pointing the way to the higher more evolved you. The energies emanating from your heart and soul long for your personal success but they stand back waiting to help you, wanting you to ask.

Ask for love’s wisdom from the depths of your heart. Ask your soul for your next step. Let them know you are eager to listen. Call to your angels. Ask for your personal guides and teachers to help.

When you have asked then it is up to you to be aware of the sign posts that appear in your everyday life. These happenings are your answers. If you visit the library or the bookstore, know that you can call for that particular book or journal to attract you. When your energy is high and calling, that special book can literally fall off the shelf into your hands.

Sharpen your awareness of your surroundings. Just a word or a sentence that you overhear at the lunch counter maybe the answer you have prayed for. Listen to your hunches, your intuition. Spirit whispers, she doesn’t shout.

One of the most valuable ways to clear and clean your own path is to fully invest yourself in a daily practice of gratitude. Don’t spend a minute telling yourself what you don’t have. Instead be gentle with yourself. Tell yourself how blessed you are. Tell yourself what you do have. Tell yourself what you intend for your life. Thank yourself for your inner awareness.

THANK YOURSELF FOR RECOGNIZING AND USING YOUR OWN GOD GIVEN ABILITIES.

Be thankful for every dear and generous friend. Be particularly grateful for every prickly acquaintance or stranger that grates on your nerves. They are all valuable! Be grateful that both kinds of people cause you to look at your own attitudes and ideas.

Learn from every situation you encounter. Bless the times you missed the mark as well as the times you were on target. If you are willing to express your gratitude for the lessons learned, I cannot promise you that the lessons will get easier. I can promise you however that you will experience greater and more far reaching success in all your efforts.

It is said we learn from our mistakes. I take issue with that. I firmly believe we learn from our successes. We learn from the times we got it right and gave ourselves the proverbial gold star.

When your energy falls, when you need confidence, self assurance in your abilities, it is the winning times you need to remember and amplify. Each of you can succeed. You have the creativity and the talent to fulfill your life’s path. With the help of your indwelling “I AM” you can go far beyond your limited human ideas of success.
No one moves through this earth experience alone. Today see everything, every situation, every person with new eyes. Begin to earnestly strive for non-judgment and compassion for others and for yourself. Understand that all life is working to evolve to rise higher. The paths to that evolution may differ but the goal is the same.

I received a wonderful thank-you gift in my e-mail the other day. It was from a long time client of mine. He sent me an entry in his journal detailing his long awaited success with direct channeling of Spirit. I was so excited for him. I thanked him for thinking of me. I thanked him for being so persistent in his efforts.

He was personally so grateful to make one more step forward. I feel that his success, combined with his loving attitude will lift the energies of everyone he touches.

Do give yourself the love that you wish from others. If you see yourself being harshly critical of your own efforts, stop. As you become more loving and gentle with yourself and simply make corrections to your so-called mistakes, you will experience more love and generosity in your life from others. You will be a magnet for happier more loving experiences.

Know that your thankfulness for your life, your feelings of love and appreciation create a ripple effect wherever you go whomever you touch. Knowing that, begin to thank those people who bless you and your family. In your times of stillness thank yourself for speaking the words of Soul and Spirit in all your relationships.

I am Reverend Lois Cheney your Sarasota Florida Psychic. I find much happiness in helping others work through their personal challenges. I will bring you answers to any of your life questions by directly contacting your guides, angels and teachers. In light trance I am able to bring communications from your departed loved ones.

I will read for you in my Florida studio or over the telephone if it is more convenient for you. In either instance I will provide you with a complete cassette recording of your personal session for your later review.

Call or e-mail today for your private appointment time. Reverend Lois Cheney (941) 961-2783 or RevLois@gmail.com.

The one difficulty with expectations is that you sometimes become very fixed in what you insist upon for an outcome. In being so exacting in the form of your intentions and their timing, you can block a much better, more satisfying result.

Spirit knows the most beneficial form of your creation and the optimum timing of its arrival. When you do not allow flexibility in either form or timing you may lose the best result.

Nothing that any of us plan to do, no action that we take, can be accomplished in a vacuum. In other words every action we initiate has a ripple effect. Each result we create with our intentions and our energy touches others in some way.

If you can be more open to variations in your desired creation, you will allow the highest and best not only for yourself but for those people who will be blessed by your manifestation as well.

As separate as each of us may feel from time to time, the truth is we are not alone. We are irrevocably joined with the earth and all life. This joining is the reason we need to ask always for “this or something better to bless all those concerned.” Or as the Buddhists might say “intend no harm”.

You have incarnated here on earth at a highly energized time. It is a time of great volatility but also great progress. Your life path is vitally important as you work with all other light workers to energize this period of ascension. You like all of us deeply desire to fulfill your personal purpose as well as your cosmic one.

If I can help you in any way to access your life goals through the channeling of your personal guides and teachers, call for your private appointment. All reading sessions are completely confidential and will be recorded for you. I will meet with you either in my Florida studio or by telephone.

Ordained by Angel Ministries, I am Reverend Lois Cheney, psychic, clairvoyant and lecturer. (941) 961-2783 or E-mail: RevLois@gmail.com.