As you may already know Tucson is a community which is very serious about not using many night or street lights simply because there is so much astronomical work happening here. Studying the heavens is highly valued throughout the area! Consequently when I left the circle that night around 9 pm, it was quite dark outside.

As I was driving home in one direction, coming toward me on the sidewalk in the opposite direction was a tall thin man carrying a small sack of groceries. He had long tangled hair and beard. His clothes and shoes were long since worn out. He was the sort of person some people might have dismissed out of hand and looked the other way. However, for whatever reason, I looked directly into his eyes. The surprise was that I was immediately drawn to the area of his heart. There was a bright golden light around his heart radiating not only throughout his body but creating a circle of light on the sidewalk. The whole vision only lasted a second or two.  I drove on home feeling very light-filled myself.

Many of us have been told over and over again that as Spirits being gifted with a human experience we are all “one”. For me the experience of seeing the spiritual glow or energy of this one man shining with such intensity drove home that point with startling clarity.  You and I, no matter our life paths, our personalities or intentions, are sharing and living because of the vitality of the Divine, the I Am that I Am, the one Holy Spirit or God’s Love and Light.

Knowing that truth of our being, why would we ever demean another? Why would we find one person good and another bad, acceptable or unacceptable? I send light and love to all of you. I see each and every one of you blessed by the Light that you are.
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The event that brought all these thoughts to the surface for me in last night’s dreams was the anniversary of my Mother’s birth. Even though she has been on the other side for more than 15 years I realize I am still dealing with the old feelings. I am still blaming her!

Because I received very sparse or no affection as a child, there are thoughts that I was not loved and perhaps not lovable. There are still ideas nudging me that if I cannot please someone, some material thing, some privilege, will be taken away.

It is now obvious to me why I entered a difficult marriage when I was so young. In my hopeful escape of childhood it was highly predictable that the marriage would turn out to be yet another voyage lacking outward affection. If I needed further convincing that I was unworthy of loving affection, that union provided it.

All of this must seem extremely foolish meanderings for someone of my age and yet my problem is there, quite real, and needs to be dealt with. In fact all those fear filled ideas are giving my ego the control over my life it wants and needs for its survival.

I have many times rationalized mother’s behavior. She and I were abandoned by my father before I was two years old. Why wouldn’t she feel unloved? Why wouldn’t she turn become wary of expressing any love to others? Somehow all of the rationality I can summon does not fix the problem. It falls back on me to begin the process of forgiving her and forgiving myself.

All the mental knowledge I have does not remove the emotional pain.

So how to begin? I know that we “hand pick” the situation of our birth and our family long before our arrival here on earth. I know that the reasons of our family situations are solely for the purpose of our soul growth. We come here to learn the lessons the earth offers. I know that many times those lessons are pain filled.

At this late date it is of no great importance now for me to know if I was working out some karmic debt. What matters is what growth I allow myself. Will I set about making amends to myself with love and compassion for the past and the present?

In reality there is nothing for which to forgive my mother. Her destined part in our mutual lives was planned long ago. She played her soul’s role well. Yet I must forgive her because I have blamed her for so much.

It is my promise to myself that I will begin reaching out to my mother’s soul with understanding and love. I want to free her from any negativity that I have foolishly placed on her.  My desire is for each of us to be free to access as much soul growth as we wish.

In order for me to be the complete ”grownup” I wish to be, I must heal that little child who still cries within. If any of you can resonate with my hurt and feel your personal inner child is still a little lost, consider taking some remedial action. When your personal child is happy, comfortable with life and loved, your adult actions all become easier and clearer. You can begin seeing life with a much broader perspective.

It is easy to see that actively judging and blaming myself or others does affect my life but not in any positive way. On the other hand I have found that when I love and forgive myself, I am much more allowing and accepting of the sometimes surprising or unusual actions of others! It is a double win.

Take an open hearted look at your life yesterday and today. If you find something that needs extra love and forgiveness, do not wait. Love, love, love! Rest assured that the love you send out will multiply and come back to you. Begin now. Times a wasting!

Positive resolutions are good. Writing them down is even better. Anytime we focus our thoughts sufficiently to reduce them to written words we have created a reminder of our intended direction but even more important we have added extra energy to the ideas.

A decision or idea left floating on the wings of mind and imagination has a more difficult time making a successful landing. There is the strong possibility it will dissipate and be lost. Grounding a purpose filled direction by writing it in as great a detail as possible will give it momentum. Writing adds life energy!

At this time of new beginnings there is another writing exercise that can add to the success of our goals. In fact it is so effective that I would suggest it might be the first writing that should be done. That priority is a written inventory of everything in our current experience for which we are thankful.

No item or situation is too small or insignificant for the gratitude list. If it adds to your life, it should be on the list! No matter how many time this past year may have seemed grim there were bright spots for each us. Today we will acknowledge those things and people who are currently adding to our lives. This exercise will show each of us how much we truly have of value!            

It is no secret that a daily practice of gratitude will bring to each of us even more things for which to be grateful. Thankfulness for the present can clear the way for more friends, a better home, satisfying employment and a multitude of other pleasures. The truth is that living in gratitude is so powerful a force that it can even sweep away depression and physical illness.

There is a deep joy that immerges from our hearts as we are truly thankful for all of our life experiences. That joy ushers out any negative judgments and instead allows us to fill with unconditional love for ourselves and others.

It is my feeling that as we write our “gratitudes” we are paving and polishing the roadway for our successful new year. May your new year be filled with happiness, new adventure and all the satisfying accomplishments you can envision.

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You see I had set aside two full hours for one of my clients. I noted in my calendar that she was due at 10 am on Saturday. She did not call, she did not e-mail and she did not show. I smiled a rather stiff forced smile and went to the computer to write this very thing.

But back to the book! Richard Carlson’s idea is that we each create completely unnecessary stress on a daily basis. We create it through insisting and expecting all our plans to work out to the letter or smallest detail. We create our stress by expecting everyone in our life to follow our ideals. We create it by asking way too much from ourselves. Not to mention that we tend to continually cry that we don’t have enough time. We worry, we fret, we anticipate. Will it? Will they? Can I? What if?

The one idea that caught my attention on that particular Saturday when his book came to mind was Dr. Carlson’s suggested method of de-stressing by what he termed “cultivating unconditional love”.

It is no secret that from time to time we all struggle with the idea that we should love unconditionally and many times fall short of the ideal. On more occasions than we probably care to admit, we even dislike ourselves and wish everyone would just go away and leave us in peace.

Regularly people or circumstances refuse to follow our personal rigidly held guidelines of right and wrong. What we wanted to happen did not. Our family and other associates acted in ways that were contrary to our expectations. It is then that we begin to nitpick and find fault with ourselves or someone else.

Sometimes we press so hard to have things and people work our way that we leave no room at all for the smallest variance. We become highly stressed. So here is Dr. Carlson’s suggestion. If we will practice unconditional love and its resultant flexibility with life’s varied situations, stress will come much less often.

It sounds straight forward and simple but at the same time it definitely does not sound easy. So where should we start this practice? It seems that babies are fairly easy to love unconditionally. Let’s start with babies.  But what if they wake us in the middle of the night? They do need clean diapers. They will cry for no obvious reason. Oh, oh! Obstacles to our unconditionally loving them! Best not start our practice with babies.

O.K., then what about pets, puppies or kitties? They love us endlessly with absolutely no conditions; however, new puppies or old dogs will have accidents on our best clean carpet. We don’t appreciate them so much then. Sometimes they chew through our house slippers. Not so loveable when we view that mess.

What about those kittens, either young or old, who want to use our dining room table for a scratching post? That behavior is sure to cause some angst. Looks like it might be a bad idea to start with cats or kittens. My, my, who or what could we love without conditions?

At first Dr. Carlson’s idea for beginning this practice of unconditional love may seem rather radical but I suggest we give it a chance. His suggestion? Begin your personal unconditional loving practice with a PLANT. Yes a regular potted house plant; a vine, a cactus, an African violet.

Place your plant in a location where you pass frequently. Each time you pass it tell it how much you love and appreciate it. Whether it flowers or fails to flower, tell it how beautiful it is, how well it is growing, how deep its color is. Speak to it. Tell it how it adds to your enjoyment every day.

Even when your plant eventually withers and dies, which it will, acknowledge the joy it added to your life. Wish it well wherever its basic energy ultimately rests. Now that is unconditional love at its most elemental.

You are asking nothing of the plant. You realistically expect nothing, but you are none the less grateful for its company, its very existence in your home, your space. Whatever the plant does or doesn’t do you love it and appreciate it. And when it ultimately deserts you, it is still o.k. with your heart.

Do you see how this practice could prepare you to be more open and flexible when it comes to the other people and situations in your life? Admittedly it amounts to just a beginning step but it is a potentially powerful one. It creates a habit or roadway for accessing and giving your love without reservations.

In my mind it points the way to better acceptance of day to day outcomes. It leaves me more amenable to the fact that not everyone will take the actions, or be the perfect person I expect them to be but I can be o.k. with that.

Hopefully it allows each one of us to realize that everyone and everything eventually leaves the place we thought they should be. They abandon that position placement and behavior action that we created for them in our minds. Why would they do that? Each of them is unique as we are. We each follow our own path. Many times the path that others take is contrary to our expectations for them.

So when we have mastered unconditional love of our special plant I believe you and I will be ready to “graduate” to more evolved life forms. Perhaps you might begin work on yourself concerning your reactions to your overly noisy next door neighbor! Or my personal challenge might be a member of my own family who tends to grate my nerves. Whoever or whatever situation it is, we will all make a focused effort to maintain more “understanding” and definitely more “allowing”.

The point of all this is we do not need to continually create unnecessary stress in our lives through our own expectations of perfection. Life will not be perfect. Let it be imperfect. Instead of worrying about this and that, let your ability to love take hold of you. The sooner we agree to become more adaptable, utilize ongoing flexibility, the quicker we will find ourselves living in peaceful harmony with ourselves and each other.

You remember my client who missed her appointment Saturday at 10? She arrived at my door at 2pm that day. Fortunately my schedule was open. I said I was surprised since I had expected her earlier. She apologized for her apparent mistake. The two of us went right to work on her concerns. After she left I went back to the old e-mail where we first agreed on the time. It was 2pm. Oh, well! Then I apologized!

What do you feel or imagine when you hear the word love? What does it say to you when you read “Love”? Does it bring a particular picture to your mind? Does it fire up your heart?

Does the word itself set you on a journey of imagination remembering a particular person, a special place or experience from your past? Is there a warm and happy glow or is the feeling tinged with sadness?

Perhaps you agree with the poet “It is better to have loved and lost than not to have loved at all.”

Our experiences with being loved and loving are as varied and individual as we are; however, certain easily recognized results occur when true love is present. In fact those specific results seem to be common to all of us as humans when we are giving and receiving love.

When we live in love’s vibration, resonating to the giving and receiving of love, HARMONY graces our interactions with others, our PHYSICAL HEALTH improves, our MENTAL OUTLOOK takes on a sunny optimistic quality and our CREATIVITY SOARS!

Considering such effects we can agree that having and giving love is a positive thing. So why don’t we simply create more of it in our lives? Perhaps the one real difficulty with experiencing more love and bringing additional love into our lives begins when we look for love in the wrong place, expecting it from the wrong source.

We seem to think that someone else should be responsible for bringing that love to us. Apparently we forget that all of the capability for love and loving was placed in us as our birthright. We are absolutely made of love.

All we really need to do is begin with loving and accepting ourselves. Those actions on our part will cause us to become a virtual LOVE ENERGY MAGNET!

When we live the love we truly are by accepting and loving ourselves just as we are, and accepting and loving others as they are, we become irresistible to even more love!

We have been told for our spiritual development, to rise higher, we need to love others “unconditionally”. The unfortunate truth is we stumble at loving ourselves unconditionally, not to mention the problems we encounter when we try to love others without reservations or judgments. Yes, we find loving unconditionally to be quite difficult if not absolutely impossible.

As humans we seem to be stuck in a constant state of judging our own behavior and the behavior of others. That judging tells us that many of us, and many of those around us, are doing and saying things that we find completely unlovable and perhaps unforgiveable.

Perhaps it would help if we were to do a little redefining of this “unconditional love”. What if instead of calling it unconditional love, we name it the “ultimate respect for the divine spark” that is at the heart and soul of each one of us? Loving unconditionally will flow in a natural way if we are able to acknowledge the divinity of each person as a unique creation and give his or her divine origin our respect.

To become the shining essence of love we were meant to be, to radiate that love continuously, we must also practice forgiveness. When we react to someone else’s words or actions by being emotionally hurt or by striking out at them, we must try to remember that the attitude they are presenting to us comes from within them and not us. Forgiving them, forgiving ourselves for our own reactions is healing.

Offering the gift of unconditional love in all situations makes more sense when we are willing to realize that any person always does the one thing which at the time they believe will make things better, or set things right.

Yes, it can be that they did not understand all the facts. They may have acted far too quickly without realizing the hurt that could result. Perhaps they were so desperately trying to find any solution that they simply acted on a misguided impulse. Nonetheless we can be sure that the person only took the action they felt would put things in order in their own little world.

It is not only important to love others, it is supremely important to love and respect ourselves, to forgive ourselves. When we judge ourselves, when we call ourselves “slow” or “thoughtless” or even “mean”, we hurt and impede the physical, mental and emotional flow of our bodies. Believe me when I tell you that your body hears your every word, thought and emotion.

Be kind to yourself. Be assured that the results of any repeated self condemnation will appear. It may start as a little headache, a tightness in the neck, or an uneasy feeling in the stomach but it can grow to be much worse.

Failing to forgive ourselves, failing to forgive others, keeps us stuck in the past. It can be just five minutes past or five years past or five lifetimes past, but we need, in fact, we must, forgive and let go for the sake of our personal health and spiritual progress.

The good news is as we let go of past errors or hurts, we retrieve our energy. We bring it out of the past and into the now where we can make beautiful advances on our life path, wonderful changes. Our inner vision clears. We are no longer fragmented. Once again we are whole!

Living in the present moment, we are stronger: our ideas are more vibrant, more creative. We are able to use all of our capabilities, all of our talents. With each passing day our energies become brighter and lighter as we choose and elect to live in the high vibration of unconditional love.

To step out of judgment, to find deep joy and peace, to progress to living a higher spiritual life, we must embrace love. However, to live in a continual state of love and light requires a daily practice of forgiveness. In a perfect world, we would never take offense at our own actions or the actions of others, but as long as we continue to take things personally, we must become experts in the art of forgiveness.

To forgive is to acknowledge that each one of us is simply a work in progress. We experiment with this method and that always striving for our personal idea of perfection. And, yes, sometimes our outcomes fall far short of the intended goal! Yet it becomes easier to forgive the seemingly unforgivable if we are willing to understand that no two life paths are the same, that no two people are learning their life lessons in the same way and that OUR WAY is definitely not the ONLY WAY.

Unconditional love is a universal antidote for so many of the ills and imbalances that we experience in our lives and in our world. When we come to the realization that it isn’t our job to change anyone but ourselves, and we are willing to allow others to be exactly as they are, we will enjoy a deep inner tranquility.

Living a life of unconditional love is productive, rewarding and yet oh so very peaceful.

I am always ready to offer you Spirit channeled help with any of your life questions and challenges. All appointments are completely confidential and are cassette recorded to take with you to review at your leisure.

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Many times when I am counseling with clients I will ask them to make a “happy list”: “I am happy when I…” Writing the list, making it solid on paper, is hopefully giving them a view of the positive aspects of their life. In truth, the happy list is just one small step toward identifying what brings them to a state of pure joy.

Why would I want them to identify joy in their lives? Joy is much greater than mere happiness. It is an elevated effervescent energy than emanates from the heart. When joy is in control of you, you also have accessed a state of unconditional love and gratitude.

The combination of Joy, Love and Gratitude is absolutely power filled.

Real joy allows you to see the source of everything and everyone as Spirit. When you are afloat in the heavenly aspects of joy, when you allow yourself to see from that higher perspective, your soul shines!

At that moment of intense joy, your soul is offering you deep understanding and seemingly miraculous possibilities.

In the experience of joy, heart and soul wisdom is always completely available. You are receptive to the highest and best information and direction without any coloring or disruption from ego.

If you know that hosting increased amounts of joy in your life will bring you greater ability to see and access your own perfect path, are you willing to deliberately entertain more joy? Will you decide to make more time for joy by eliminating time spent in useless worry and fretting?

THERE IS ABSOLUTELY NOTHING “FRIVOLOUS” ABOUT JOY! It is an important part of living and experiencing. It deserves to be cultivated and allowed to flow freely in your life.

Decide today, to look for whatever brings you to that elevated energy of joy. Find it. Repeat it. Increase its’ presence until it becomes a strong energy muscle in your life. The rewards will show themselves by illuminating your own higher purpose and understanding.

Your life path and purpose are important. My work is helping you to identify ways of actuating your very best life now. Call me today for a confidential reading appointment or to learn about my private intuitive lessons.

I am your Sarasota Florida Psychic, Reverend Lois Cheney (941)961-2783 or E-Mail: RevLois@gmail.com